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  1. Agata Nowicka, Psychotherapy, IE says

    I am left with the phrase “he has a sense of being driven by values” I find that if the client can really connect with the WHY it’s worth and important to take a risk and respond differently it often helps them take that risk.

    Another strategy I use is to get the client to remember a situation of rejection and to see how they not only survived it but even coped quite well with it – the logic is: if you’ve survived it once maybe there is not so much to fear. I find it empowers my clients and helps them assert themselves.

    • Mal P, Another Field, IN says

      that’s helpful!

  2. Marcy, Marriage/Family Therapy, WA, USA says

    Just saw this in office yesterday. Could literally see in the face of the partner while thinking of strategies for intervention. Emotions are so close to the surface with some people and it is an ongoing rebalancing almost daily for some. We set up ground rules to help with their fears as they arise as a solution. So far it worked yesterday and there is hope it will continue but these resolutions wax and wane when there a history of poor habitual reactions. Tears and frown or rolling eyes were obvious triggers but their learning how to handle them is imperative to maintain positive, effective resolutions. It is a slow process so thank for the words of aide for these types of issues. Looking forward to a stabilization within the nervous system as hopefully hope improves in our society as that IS affecting the healing process.

  3. Barbara Petsel, Counseling, Plano, TX, USA says

    I have found it helpful for my past clients (I am now retired) and for myself if I change the situation to how would I want my adult kids to respond to a person or situation such as this- — I want them to self-advocate and if I change the context to me setting an example for them, I can better assert myself and set better boundaries. This seems to help many of my clients who were not used to self-advocacy but could advocate for others.