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  1. Anonymous, New York , NY, USA says

    I am the client I could not identify with this I’m suffering from my childhood abandonment Mother died when I was 2yo Father died when I was 5yo Was then raised by a pedophile I told myself when I leave here I will stay away from people for the rest of my life Which I practically have done No help from therapists I wanted to die after my father died Never had any interest in living I’m 74yo alone and depressed

    • Judith Lavendar, Another Field, USA says

      A friend of mine laid in her mothers’ arms in a bed as she died. My friend was just months old and wasn’t found for three days. She was raised by family so the situation is different from yours a bit. As an adult in her early thirties he joined a “women who love too much” 12 -step group and several months later she got her life back. Good luck to you. I am sending you my love.

  2. Donna Wulf, Nursing, IL, USA says

    There is no video posted to watch

  3. Beth, Social Work, IL says

    I have used different disney animals that have a pouch or wings or carry their young on their backs and worked with imagery on how it feels to be in the pouch or on the back, peeking out, moving away and coming back again. feeling the feelings in the body

  4. Sandra Palmer, Psychotherapy, IE says

    Short but pithy. Pat Ogden presented wisdom in a small package.

  5. Monique Vazire, Marriage/Family Therapy, CA, USA says

    I feel it’s not that simple : for him to just practice letting go does not address the deeper blief that. Is at the core of the clingy behavior, that he must be defective at his core and he needs someone else to “rescue” him from his deficiencies. For him to let go of this belief he would have to help the vulnerable part to attach to him, his Self, more, so that the part would feel secure enough ot be able to let go of his partner. As long as the Attachment to the .self is not strong enough he likely would not trust himself enough to let go of her.

    • Esi Cakmakcioglu, Counseling, GB says

      Completely agree with you. It does not address the deeper belief nor the experience..

  6. Molly D says

    Always appreciate Pat’s measured, kind, intuitive approach.

  7. Wendy Johnson, Teacher, Billings, MT, USA says

    Pat refers to letting go as one of the 5 basic actions. Does anyone know what the other 4 are?

    • Susanna Grace, Coach, GB says

      Reaching, grasping, pulling towards, pushing away, and avoiding I believe. I hope someone else might confirm this, Wendy.

      • Wendy Johnson, Teacher, Billings, MT, USA says

        Thank you, Susanna.

  8. Rosalind Hildred, Another Field, CA says

    These practises make me want to cry, I think at the enormity of the load inside. It’s overwhelming and frightening and I will be doing these first two techniques as often as I can remember , baby steps, until I feel the load lessening a bit. These are acupressure points. Acupressure has been the best thing for me to shift out of my anxiety for long enough to get a sense of what it must feel like to have peace. These simple techniques will hopefully help me carry that feeling for longer, and they’re free! Thank you.

    • Rosalind Hildred, Another Field, CA says

      Just realized I commented on the Peter Levine video that follow this one. Thanks for all.

  9. Adele P, Psychotherapy, USA says

    Really great to be reminded of this physically-based, concrete way of permitting, feeling into, shifting responses – if and when that feels right – and so changing trauma patterns towards healing. Pat says it so clearly and compassionately. I have a number of clients for whom this will be helpful.

  10. Orla O Connor, GB says

    Thank you, A great example of how the psyche and soma can work together in a not too complex situation and yet having profound effects upon the client. How the body already knows and how the early development of hand movement was his link to releasing. It might show signs of early non-verbal challenges and therefore the use of non-verbal interaction first, into cognition is a way to help the client to ease that present somatic and cognitive concern.
    Thank you for sharing so openly the importance of soma and non verbal work in therapy. Your work and eagerness to share this work is helping other non-verbal typology therapists to become more recognised and to be able to do the work we so love to be able to do.
    Thank you again.

  11. arik v, Health Education, VN says

    Thank u

  12. Robin t, Psychology, GB says

    Practical example of safe place work and letting go. Thank you. Is ‘homework’ still used!!