Without a doubt, the compassion we offer our clients is often a key part of their healing.
But how do we help our clients build compassion toward themselves . . .
. . . especially when they feel frozen and unable to act, cut off from themselves and those they care about? When their ability to be kind to themselves is blocked by a punishing inner critic?
Well, Laura Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD uses two powerful interventions from compassion-focused therapy to help her clients heal shame.
In the video below, you’ll hear the compelling case of Seth. Laura shares exactly what she did to help him end the cycle of shame-based paralysis and isolation.
Check it out – it’s about 4 minutes.
Laura’s approach can be powerful – especially for clients who might be equating compassion with “letting themselves off the hook.”
We’ll be getting into several other strategies for helping clients transform shame with self-compassion in this week’s session in The Clinical Application of Compassion program.
Here’s the link where you can sign up to join us for the free broadcast.
But for now, I’d like to hear from you. How have you helped a client heal from shame? Please share your experience in the comment section below.
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It is the most painful feeling anyone could image who has gone through this. Shame can shut us down or emerge in ways destructive to ourselves and others. Mistakes at the office are a part of life whether it is made by a dealer or a client. You just need to be calm yourself down and stop yourself from making any impulsive decision.
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Is it about the fear of being overly compassionate ?
It looks like to me, Seith’s struggle seem in essence coming from the character he has to perform and his role of being perfect and ignoring the flaws that appears on stage. Emotionally it takes courage to be connected and gain a new identity, and play a different character. Professionally, actors would use visualization, articulation, tone, and voice exercise for best results, and to gain in confidence in the role, but could it be that Seith needs not only a coach, a model, teacher, but also, a friendly counselor who will give him a reality check to stay grounded, centered, and not losing himself in trying too hard to reach a top-notch performance that can cause great anxiety, shame, or a sense of being defective. Thanks for the great video.
I can relate to this as I have given help. To be an actor is to be always on stage. And when the curtains fall, the person falls into depression after moments of loneliness and criticizes himself so hard. Otherwise, often forget his small success. I think the actor needs a therapy or a coach to finish his work because he gets lost in his life, especially off the stage. That said, in this sense, the need to see one’s group / audience is felt when healing takes place. Thus, using videos and clips can improve performance and self-confidence, and not become discouraged or fall into depression. Very good choice to show how to work in this case. Thank you.
It feels like a fear based method using some manipulation doesn’t it so? It intends is to modify the behavior in a situation. Technically therapeutical and alliance approach, I have used this but my client was very resistant to change. Since he set the wall between us. What else could I have done but only pacing the session. Hope this helps.
I’ve definitely used a CFT approach with a client who felt shame and heavy guilt for having a marital affair. Just showing him compassion that he wasn’t a bad person, rather, just made a bad choice. (He was self harming due to loathing himself so his remorse was quite evident.) fortunately his anxiety came under control with the acceptance and non-judgement I showed him and he slowly accepted his mistake and took necessary steps to right the wrong as best he could in the circumstance.
I am using this approach right now with a young lady who hates herself (due to abuse, violation, and assaults inflicted on her by her own parents)
for me it comes naturally to show compassion, the tricky bit is keeping the relationship professional as they are so appreciative of you and your help.
Thank you , i’ve found the case interesting, The technique is quite soothing, and the client appears calmly rested. Great tool!
“So you’ve been bad”
“What could be differently happening”
“Just couldn’t be any different”
“So what else to accept?”
Is this what the video’s about? Please correct me if I am wrong.
No, you are using the critic’s voice by saying that. The idea is to develop the compassionate voice.
It is not about accepting, is about understanding internal thought processes that dominates and disables by criticizing.
Thank you so much for Dr. Silberstein-Tirch’s video plus all of the others in this series. This one resonated with me for a particular client who, by George, I believe this approach is likely to help! What I think will be particularly effective about this approach is that it doesn’t suggest abandoning the harmful critic, per se, but rather, while envisioning and creating an ideal motivating figure, the client may still notice when s/he believes s/he has made mistakes but allow oneself to address themselves with more humanity. Love this approach! Love this series! I hope to purchase series when able to. I agree with comment below stated by Nadia M.; “It couldn’t be any better.”
I apologize for not noticing the autocorrect before posting. The person’s comment I was quoting below was Nasim, not Nadia. Sorry, Nasim!
I am or rather have been trying to help a client heal a deep feeling of not being good enough and shame. I can only express my gratitude to this series to open new avenues towards building a sound working alliance with my client.
I love the applications based helpful researched materials, and the manner it is communicated for us to follow
it couldn’t be any better
I have worked primarily in trauma response agencies and so many clients have taken on the shame of being abused and that it reflected a flaw in themselves. Being able to talk about it in a safe and affirming space seemed to do much to relieve shame. To know that they weren’t alone and that they could be witnessed with a fully present person who saw them in their entirety and didn’t judge them and invited them to develop that compassionate inner voice as I modeled it to them.