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  1. robinson.buckler @ yahoo. com…… restored my relationship, my boyfriend came back to me, i took him back and I am now settled with my him….

  2. Regarding falling in love being related to addiction. There is some good work being done in EMDR that shows that a very euphoric state (such as with morphine with someone in pain, or a person who feels like a loser winning a large bet, or someone who never had their connection needs met by their parents and now thinks that will happen with their new love) produces an implicit memory similar to that of an overwhelming traumatic experience. This leads to behavior which “chases the high,” trying to have this experience repeated — thus leading to addiction. If the memory is accessed and desensitized, the compulsion to repeat goes away, and then the condition behind it (being a loser, in love, emotional pain, etc.) can be accessed and resolved. See http://www.fsaprotocol.com/ for more information (this is not an endorsement, just for more information).
    If you’ve experienced rejection and it feels devastating, there probably is an earlier experience that was perceived as life threatening and it is getting triggered by the current rejection. Losing your mother as an infant or toddler is one such trauma. An infant who is left alone for several hours and whose cries go unanswered will also have this kind of trauma. See a good Somatic Experiencing or Somatosensory Psychotherapist for help in these areas.

  3. After a time of saying goodbye to a past attachment, then its time to say hello to the next chapter and many things can be helpful to make that transition. I love audiobooks, and finished ‘Down and Out in Paris and London’, and couldn’t make a switch to another book. So, I said to myself, I don’t have to commit to a new story yet, I can listen to a few and check them out.
    BTW this is interesting in terms of knowing that our perceptions are mirrored in our brain. This is on music.
    http://www.techly.com.au/2014/02/11/listen-work-music-brain/

  4. Not sure that I agree with this approach. Rejection is a wounding. If we look at the animal world they can teach us a lot. They retreat to a safe place and lick their wounds…taking time to heal.They do not rush out looking for some new experience to distract them.They need to settle, to integrate and use the restorative powers of resting.The anthropomorphising of the brain is a little disturbing in this clip.

    • I am not sure whether your example of animals retreating to safe place is relevant to this discussion. It is true that animals suffering from physical trauma retreat to a safe place in order to get out of Fight or Flight (sympathetic dominance – Survival mode) and into the Relaxation Response (parasympathetic dominance – Healing and Repair mode) which is equally relevant to humans suffering from physical ailments. However when it comes to psychological trauma activity can be very healing …eg exercise stimulates the release of endorphines which elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Lack of activity can actually be a cause of depression. Anything that increases dopamine levels must be good.

    • Hi Kikii would like to find out more about this coaching prrmgamoe. I am starting my own business and need to overcome the fear of rejection but most importantly i need to learn strategies of developing a successful coaching and motivational speaking business. Please help

    • Take a long slow drive through dfinereft neighborhoods and check out the color schemes along the way this helps in the real world Personally I like earth tones have fun!

  5. It’s fascinating what the BRAIN reacts to and how it handles the information in so many different levels of our individualized consciousness/ unconsciousness.

  6. Even though I kicked out my ex for his abuse — he ex molested my daughter, was extremely emotionally, verbally, physically and financially abusive to us — it has been hard to let go. (Traumatic Bonding, eurphoric recall…) Here’s what’s helping:
    Making a BUSINESS of my mental health — learning & practicing skills
    Recovery International – free self-help groups (http://www.lowselfhelpsystems.org/system/our-method.asp
    DBT & yoga & prayer (mindfully handling rumination)
    controlling impulses to connect with him, drive by… went to SLAA, sex love addicts anynoymous mtgs.)
    patience with the process,
    WORKING on forgiving myself and others
    educating myself
    establishing and working on short & long range goals
    Zev Wanderer’s book “Letting Go: 12 week program” cbt based
    I send a prayer and blessing to those who are also struggling with this issue my encouragement. There is hope if you take the steps to chose happiness rather than self-torture, suffering and punishment. But you can’t skip steps, don’t be afraid of feeling the grief and pain, just don’t let yourself wallow in it either. Happiness, freedom can coexist despite pain — life isn’t free of pain.

  7. My rejection is from my Daughter
    It has been 7 years now
    I am not able to see, talk, or call her
    I not able to see my 2 Grandchildren
    I am bipolar
    I am sickened and saddened
    She has turned the children against me
    Saying I am Crazy
    What are your suggestions for a broken heart?

    • Have you gone to a therapist who understands Bipolar and if so would your daughter be willing to go into therapy with you. Have you tried Bipolar support groups. I believe that Bipolar and other brain deficiencies can also be looked at as a brain injury. There is the physical brain injury and the emotional brain injury.

  8. Many artists know the experience of rejection very well. Often, like me, these people are passionate individuals who give themselves heart, mind, and soul to their art work. I made beautiful dances and theater work, throwing myself into a project with everything I had. Then, so often, my culture treated that dedication as ridiculous, not supporting me and many times outright rejecting me as I was judged by the media and the public simply ignored my work. Because the art world operates on the organizational models that dominate our culture, most artists find themselves in fierce competition with one another as they each battle for just a tiny bit of a few resources only to be rejected again and again. This takes its toll on artists’ full mind/body. Most dancers implode by age 35 or 40. They just can’t go on, not because they can’t perform the movement but because the constant rejectiion is literally killing them. It creates illness and destroys personalities. Once passionate souls often walk away from their medium apathetic and cynical. Rejection in this culture is rampant, but for the artist, it is downright destructive.

  9. Hello,
    I’m giving emotional coaching to vulnerable, rejected, abandoned, neglected, traumatized and abused children. They express their feelings on the physical level through behavioral ‘disruptions’.
    I would be interested to hear more about how children process rejection on the mental and psychological level.
    Thank you for dedicating time to this important subject.

  10. I’ve been giving emotional coaching to vulnerable, rejected, neglected, abused, and traumatized children and adolescents for the past year and a half.
    I’m interested to hear more about how children’s brains process rejection. I know that rejection leads to disrupted behavioral expression, but that is on the physical level. What about the mental and psychological ‘disruptions’ at that age?

  11. I would like to here more practical day to day information about brain change and cellular biology. I have a serious chronic illness that affects my bone marrow and blood ( the culture medium).
    Also, the short rejection blurb only seems to focus on romantic heartbreak. There are many other heartbreaking losses in life.

    • Being “Mindfully” positive (and consistently clearing “negative” thoughts, feelings and beliefs) and also learning to (im)plant (while avoiding “rejection”) new ways of being “in LOVE” in & with our lives…
      is the best way I know of dealing with similar challenges. The real lesson in all this “new age of neuro-plasticity and epi-genetics” is that our biological systems are infinitely responsive to heart AND mind!
      Science is merely beginning to validate what has always been true… a “Culture” is that which is and enhances “Elan Vital” (life force) through literature, music, dance… family, relationships and LOVE!
      Just as the “diet” answer is native, natural, whole foods – not refined, processed or chemical replacements… wholeness, balance & optimal being come through making peace in our bodies.
      Find an open-minded Physician and Therapist you connect with and trust on your healing journey. Trust the therapies that “resonate” with you and also do whatever “makes your heart sing” Diane!

      • Really appreciate the Integral nature of your reply; including the corollary between “diet” and “life.” The more we connect with our own internal Oneness, the less we seek it outside of ourselves, especially in others.
        Our society/culture has so emphasized our “aloneness,” and the desperate need to find our “soulmate” and all the other Disney-like Prince and Princess mythology, that we seek the Fast Food of dating/relationships, and come away just as unsatisfied.
        When we recognize our basic nature being made of Love, seeking it becomes irrelevant, and we shift to swimming in it like oxygen in blood. We can generate our own positive biochemistry, and then when we do connect with another, it’s icing on the cake fantastic, rather than desperate need.

        • Well said! However not so easy to do that, be in that frame of mind consistently. Night time is probably the worst time of the day ( unless I’m reading). Leaving alone is the pits!

        • Totally resonate with the above!
          Thank you.
          Heart Radiance xox:)

  12. Hi. I first want to share my deep appreciation for the Brain Science Webinar. For the upcoming ‘The Brain in Love” can you also touch on an infant’s relationship with its mother as the basis for love.
    For instance I was taken away from my mother at about 2 years of age. My mother was having a nervous breakdown. I was dropped off at an orphanage on her way to the hospital. In short, I know that the ‘rejection’ was traumatic and is at the core of the formation of my brain. I learned about this event, from my mother, in my late teens. She explained that when she came to get me from the orphanage, she did not recognize me.
    ¨PS. I am now in a love story that has so far spanned 37 years!

    • Thanks for spending time on the computer (wtiring) so others don’t have to.

    • Any relationship is rercveoable (even when your lover has moved on) but, it’s really difficult to find correct advice to prevent making a fool of yourself and risk making things worse.Through numerous advice guides, the only one that got my attention was the EXbacks.comThe way they have presented the information is easy to follow, realistic and truly simple.Anything is possible to gain and lastly I can say, you can get what you look for as long as you work hard for it.