“I’m not as good as I should be.”
It’s a common refrain from many of our patients.
Helping them trade self-judgment for self-compassion is an essential first step in creating real change.
Watch below as Tara Brach, PhD talks more about this and what needs to be in place before we can become truly free and open to changing ourselves for the better.
How has compassion played a role in your practice, with either yourself or with your patients? Please share a comment with us below.
Tara Bach is fabulous.
I have found that self image for childhood trauma people is key to change for more impact. daily affirmations combined with never saying a negative word or entertain a negative thought.
As Rick Hanson says we create the ego out of past memories, woven together as a story we call ego.
The left brain is what I call garbage in/garbage out. consider you words as being typed on a keypad that the ego searches for past memories to make our literal speech reality.
Whatever we profess, I am inferior, damaged will become reality to us.
We can change this ego with attention our thoughts and speech. Most childhood trauma sufferers find affirmations to feel like we are lying about us. Our self I age is damaged and saying such positive things is uneasy.
I am perfect, striving each day to stay present with complete effort to live life fully.
I strive to not judge things or people today while staying present to experience this moment.
I accept myself totally, loving all parts of me, the vulnerable and the powerful, the awkward and the comfortable, the wins and losses,.
Apply this with a daily mindful practice and the world shifts.
Yes, self-acceptance is a key, perhaps *the* key to a happy life. If you stop and think about it, the concept of change says, implicitly, “I don’t accept who/what I am and want to be something else.”
That’s a wise answer to a tricky quetison