By their very nature, gaslighting and manipulation can sometimes be difficult to detect. That’s because both cause clients to second-guess their perception of events . . . . . . or even to question whether someone is intending to cause them harm in the first place. So how can we help a client begin to […]
Two Cognitive Restructuring Strategies to Help Disrupt Grief-Fueled Rumination
In their search for relief, comfort, or answers, a grieving client might spend a lot of time revisiting memories of what once was. But what starts as a pattern of coping can quickly spiral into painful rumination. So how can we help clients pull out of such a cycle? In the video below, Christine Padesky, […]
A Gentle Yet Targeted Approach to Help Clients Who Feel Empty Inside
When a client loses something that’s become central to their identity and purpose, they can start to feel empty. And for many clients, filling that void can feel like a daunting prospect. So when it comes to helping them discover new sources of fulfillment, where do we start? In the video below, Michael Yapko, PhD […]
A Four-Step Process for Working with a Client’s Shadow Side – with Chris Irons, PhD
As therapists, we know just how transformative it can be for clients to explore their shadow side. But that’s often a hard ask – because the thing is, most clients would do anything to avoid talking about (or even acknowledging) the parts of themselves that they’re ashamed or afraid of. So in the video below, […]
Reporting In – Giving Back in 2024
When I began NICABM, I made it a cornerstone of our organization that we would give back to those who are in need. It’s a lesson that my parents instilled in me from a young age when they taught me to tithe at least 10% of my allowance each week. And now, every holiday season, […]
Helping Clients Navigate Political Differences this Holiday Season
For many clients, the holiday season is all about connecting with family and friends. But this year, with the US election not very far in the rearview, holiday gatherings might feel a little more emotionally charged. . . . . . especially if your client has dear friends and family who are politically across the […]
An IFS Approach to Help Clients When Regret Prolongs Their Grief – with Richard Schwartz, PhD
It’s not unusual for clients to experience feelings of regret after losing someone or something they hold dear. But according to Richard Schwartz, PhD, there are two specific forms of regret that can prolong a client’s grief. So in the video below, Richard shares an Internal Family Systems approach for targeting both types of regret […]
A Trauma-Informed Framework to Help Clients Stuck in a “Resentment Mindset” – with Janina Fisher, PhD
When a client is really hooked into resentment it might be a sign of a deeper, sometimes traumatic, wound. According to Janina Fisher, PhD, this often has to do with the way traumatic memories are stored. With that in mind, there’s a simple reframe Janina relies on to help her chip away at what we […]
A Strategy for Helping Clients Work Through their Sticking Points – with Thema Bryant, PhD
When a client feels stuck, it could be a fear of failure that keeps them from moving forward. Not only that but staying stuck might be their way of shutting out deeper insecurities. So how can we help clients work through their fears and reconnect to the kind of hope that spurs forward momentum and […]
A Simple Way to Help a Client Experiment with Mindfulness (Even When They’re Skeptical)
By now, you’re probably familiar with many of the benefits of mindfulness. Maybe you even practice it yourself. Nevertheless, getting a client to try it out can still prove tricky for many therapists. So in the video below, Zindel Segal, PhD shares a simple way for you to help a client begin to explore the […]