After a traumatic event, a client might feel deeply ashamed by how they responded to the situation.
Perhaps they froze and now blame themselves for not fighting back. Or, maybe they ran away, but now regret not standing up for themselves.
As clinicians, we’re able to recognize that these reactions happen at the level of the nervous system – they’re reflexive responses. The question is, how do we get clients to see this?
In the video below, Ron Siegel, PsyD, shares specific language he uses to de-stigmatize a client’s trauma response.
He’ll also share one metaphor that can instantly help alleviate shame and self-blame in trauma survivors.
Take a look.
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In this program, we get into how to work with trauma-induced shame, including how to recognize shame even when clients don’t think it’s a problem, and how to help clients who are triggered by positive emotions. To sign up, click here.
Now we want to hear from you. What are some ways you help clients alleviate shame and self-blame after trauma? Please leave a comment below to let us know.
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