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A Creative Technique to Help Clients Face Fear

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Fear is our body’s natural way of protecting us from a potential threat.

But when fear gets in the driver’s seat, it can keep us from the people and activities we value most.

So how can we help our clients take back control from their fears?

In the video below, Lynn Lyons, LICSW explains a creative technique for helping her client face her fears.

Take a look—it’s about 4 minutes.

Sometimes it can feel like our fears are in control of us.

But Lynn offered us an example of a creative technique for helping clients take back control from fear.

In the meantime, we’d like to hear from you. How do you help clients face their fears?

Please leave a comment below.

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31 Comments

  1. Salaheddine, Psychotherapy, DZ says

    Thank you

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  2. Sue Parsons, Other, CA says

    NAME and CLAIM ….The very act of letting your unconscious know you are listening with Conscious ownership by naming the emotion that caused difficulty prior….means you are our own witness and reclaim the PRESENT Moment – Mindfulness in action.

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  3. Natalie Cogni Academy, Gold Coast - Australia, Psychotherapy, AU says

    This technique sounds like it is adapted from the Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model. Thanks for sharing this practical application with your client Lynn. It’s brilliant to know that clients can be great resources for themselves in this way of what sounds like a mix of IFS and assertiveness training.

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  4. Tracey Penney, Social Work, AU says

    By use of analogies, talking through possible triggers and exploring past and current management strategies with the young people I have worked with. I have found this decreases their fears and empowers them to take charge and develop their self determination.

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  5. James Rad, Coach, CA says

    Terrible advice to call innovate especially!! Life coaches have been doing this forever and much better, and honestly with a little more humility! Traditionally Psychology is really stuck in the head! Even with it comes to emotions, we are still looking for a formula. Thank god Coaching separates itself from its old grandpa to start its own venture. In general, it’s much more effective to see a coach than swing therapists with all kinds of colourful degrees—if one is after results.

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  6. Amna Jaffer says

    The creative technique used by Lynn is called ‘concretizing’ and is a part of a methodology called Psychodrama. Psychodrama is an experiential form of group psychotherapy founded by J.L.Moreno. In this type of psychotherapy, techniques such as doubling, role reversal, mirroring and concretizing allow clients to give shape and voice to thoughts, fears, expectations and more. It also allows clients to practice new behaviors and have productive conversations with an auxiliary in a safe environment.

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  7. Pauline says

    I use an NLP strategy. First practise breathing and relaxation, then imagine going into the back of a cinema and watching the situation on a screen in colour. Rewind the film fast in black and white. Run forward in colour again then rewind in black and white. Repeat until the energy has diminished enough for them not to feel any anxiety. Can use a scale of 0 – 10. Gradually imagine moving closer to the screen. Finally associate the person into the film and repeat as above until they feel totally fine about it. Get them to leave the cinema and do it for real using the breathing and relaxation exercises again beforehand.

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  8. Michelle H says

    Great idea to externalise the fear/worry enabling the client to create some distance between the anxiety and herself. A similar technique can be used with clients who present with OCD or anger asking them what it looks like, feels like, sounds like. The client may draw/paint the emotion so that it takes on it’s own identity separate from the person and it’s presence starts to diminish. This can be worked through by the client developing a best/compassionate/wise version of themselves, which over time extinguishes the “out of control” emotion.

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  9. Suzette Misrachi, from Melbourne, Australia says

    It’s so good to be reminded that distance from anxiety helps greatly in achieving a more objective perspective of a person’s fears. This fits in with some practical advice I offer via my trauma research entitled: “Lives Unseen: Unacknowledged Trauma of Non-Disordered, Competent Adult Children of Parents with a Severe Mental Illness” freely available at The University of Melbourne, Australia. This research will also come up if you just google my name, along with some trauma-informed articles I’ve posted on medium.com. You should also be able to access my resource website same way. (Hope this is helpful). Thanks heaps for your terrific work!

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  10. Sindy says

    Thanks. Your sharing echoes acceptance commitment therapy. It works similarly to the passengers on the bus metophor. Thanks for your sharing.

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  11. Paula says

    I am always telling my students to take ownership of their actions because when one recognizes faults is when one can start to learn from the faults. I liked her technique with naming the anxiety as it removed the anxiety from her.

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  12. shadow61260 says

    No One

    I am not sure if anyone can help me move out of fear.
    Fear has controlled me since I was a traumatized kid,
    and later an abused wife.

    When fear tells me what to do or NOT to do or things I must be afraid of –
    I have such a visceral reaction;
    if I try to move toward it: the fearful thing,
    it feels like someone is grabbing or choking me.

    Sometimes I feel things crawling all over me.
    Sometimes I believe I am about to die.
    Sometimes I think I am so near to death I should finish it
    Mostly I freeze.
    I stop.

    And often when it becomes overwhelming,
    my dissociative mind will blank out
    and I won’t even remember anything that happened
    like the trigger or that I blanked out and missed periods of time.

    I am so afraid of doing something wrong
    Or disappointing someone
    Or screwing up or saying something unkind

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    • Sheila Hardwick says

      I am so afraid of doing something wrong
      Or disappointing someone
      Or screwing up or saying something unkind

      I read that sentence and relate entirely though I am not as abused as you obviously have been. But I do recognize that “doing something wrong”, “disappointing someone” and “screwing up” are all value judgements. There are no correct things to do to avoid making mistakes – it is just the way we learn (in a nurturing and caring environment).

      Your first priority needs to be safety from the abuse. If you are still in the situation then all the negatives are being reinforced endlessly. You need help to establish boundaries to protect you. I have found great solace at Al-Anon meetings where anonymity is paramount and you will be given the tools to recover.

      Eventually you will re-learn, as I am doing, that making mistakes is fine and that your own value-judgements are the perfect vehicle for you learn the lessons of your life. I wish you all the best help, love and support in your journey through recovery. You are not alone.

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  13. Celeste says

    My clients fear is of someone trying to kill her its severe not sure this would work for her.

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  14. Ash says

    Thank you very much. I will try it tomorrow 😀

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  15. Laurence Hewitt says

    I have used this technique to great effect, with 2 clients. In both cases, it allowed the clients to distance themselves from the anxiety and hear their fears verbalized in a ridiculous cartoonish voice. The result is a more objective perspective of their fears, making the anxiety seem silly to themselves. It works and works quickly.

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  16. daisy says

    I’ve watched my fear of driving grow and blossom from a sensible 15yr old’s fear (which I managed to get over and drive for going on two decades).
    Now, I feel the fear of killing someone (my dad was killed by a car when I was 15 and just like that a handful of lives were changed forever).
    I’m using this fear to mask my fear of life in general.
    I can drive locally but have put this fear in the way of engaging with my family (except for their occasional visits).
    I don’t know where to go next?
    Please help me with some ideas.
    thanx.

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  17. Pascale Scheurer says

    I’ve used several practical suggestions from within Buddhist psychology (that don’t require a belief in Buddhism per se), for example:
    – “I see you Mara” – externalising and giving a personality to the inner critic or inner worry-monger. Invite “Mara” in for a cup of tea and see clearly what it’s trying to do before gently inviting it to go on its way.
    – “Don’t make fear your enemy, but don’t let it be the boss of you.” Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, who suffered extreme panic attacks from the age of 6 until about 13. Youtube has videos of his talks on working through panic.
    – “Working with Fear” talk by Joseph Goldstein. This one was a real breakthrough for recurrent panic attacks. One phrase particularly resonated regarding how crippling fear can become: “I was afraid to go from sitting to standing.” And the solution of acceptance: “If this fear is here for the rest of my life, it’s OK.”
    – Naming the panic aloud: “I am afraid!” Which led to a sudden outburst of laughter, and the attacks soon disappeared. The feeling in the body still arises in specific circumstances, but it’s possible to stay with it until it passes.
    The writings of Peter Levine, Stephen Porges, Jaak Panksepp and Bessel van der Kolk have been influential in this process. I believe it to be a question of sympathetic and parasympathetic arousal in the body, which we can learn to work with.

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  18. GunMarie says

    I love techniques that are based on acceptance and don’t challenge resistance. I use Energy phychology like EFT. I have worked successfully with fear of driving. And time I’m in heavy traffic I do it myself. I tap on the meridian points s and focus on my feelings of being tense and anxious and when I feel more relaxed I tap on my intention to be obsevant and focused and on arriving safely. Has helped a lot driving in the Bay area or in my homtown Stockholm Sweden .
    When working with a 7 year old on his fear of flying we did a combination of EFT and naming his fear, also acknowleding the fear and questioning if it had anything new exept tge boring standard phrase: this is dangerous.

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  19. Lenora Wing Lun says

    Thanks.

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  20. Linda Chernenkoff says

    Inviting them to voice what they believe will happen if they act or do something that causes their feat

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  21. sam says

    excellent, I work with little kids- naming fears also anger and other emotions works really well- reminds me of the movie Inside Out- all the different emotions are in character form —

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    • Felicia says

      Hi Sam!
      You’re talking about Internal Family Systems (IFS)! The developer uses Inside Out to try and explain what’s it’s like inside ourselves. 😉

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  22. Linda Sheehan says

    This is a drama therapy technique. Check it out. There even a drama therapy association NADT. 🙂

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  23. Kevin Henry says

    Simple, straightforward, and brilliant guidance, a lovely embodiment in direction and outcome of the principles of responsible self-leadership. Thanks for this gem of reminding I, for one, need often, often, often…

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  24. Michelle Kelley says

    Excellent technique! Thank you.

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  25. Raghnall says

    Thank you for sharing this playful way to deal with a driving fear. It seems to have an interesting mix of ’60’s Jay Haley/Ericson/Bateson, second cybernetics with some multi and equifinality thrown together with a narrative twist. I think Bill might be able to weigh in on these areas quite well.

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  26. Tobias Schreiber says

    Nice reframe interacting with the fear identity and accepting , then distancing from it. Thank you.

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  27. hans says

    You invite your fear to come along and then you get stood up by your fear! Imagine that!!

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  28. Kimberly says

    That was very helpful. What a great way to externalize the fear and do it afraid!
    Thanks so much!

    Reply
  29. Ceri Louise Morton Thomas says

    Helpful, reminded me of Elizabeth Gilbert’s comments about fear being with her on the road trip of her creativity, she invites fear along but they are not allowed in drivers seat!

    Reply

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