I find myself in a more compassionate and will be kinder for doing just enough time . I will unlearn and catch myself being a harsh critic to my self .
Wow, that question about “What am I unwilling to feel?” is really helpful. Many times clients share that they do not feel anything. Interesting question!
I felt a big relief when I questioned the self blame of my second arrow and I realised that it is only a creation by my mind. When I shifted from head to heartspace, I had the opportunity to evaluate my self blame on a deeper level of truth (on the level of my heart) and it turned out to be simply not true.
I found it a bit challenging to go from the mind to the heart area (too much thinking) and then concentrated on the image of the waves. Overall it was releiving. I feel that it will work better as I practice more of it…
I really connected to how I use negative self talk and judgement instead of being with my feelings of pain, anger and jealousy. The second arrow hurts me the most.
I was immediately aware of the things that I am feeling in terms of shame,
judgment, frustration and worry about my future. I then zeroed in how I felt… where was this tension centred in my body? Mostly my throat and back of my neck… then Tara requested I move from my head to my heart and give myself the self compassion I really needed and the understanding and love I really needed. I immediately felt a growing awareness and expansiveness in my whole being. “This” she said is “the heart space.”
I smiled … a smile that was barely there at first then grew … as I released into the depths of softening the kindness I showed myself gifted me. Blessings
I have much shame over my angry outbursts. I am aware of what brings them on and chastise myself for not being able to control them. I told my child inside that she belongs and then hugged a teddy bear. I offered myself compassion by realizing that any progress is acceptable I am doing my best and my best is good enough
Firstly, as I took a deep breath, I felt shivers all through my head and neck. Then I felt further tightness or pressure in the heart, and then a sense of release, easing of pressure throughout my body.
I’m 75 years old and for the first time I was able to separate the thoughts from the feelings. The thoughts are actually in my mind. It was always one space-condemning thoughts and self-hating feelings in my heart. I always felt them as one thing. When they are separate, I see that I can deal with them in different ways and not just feel them as one. That makes it able to be healed. I’m sure it was my time to be able to hear this. Thank you so much Tara for saying it. It’s been so long and I can now see a way. Grateful.
I felt the expansion and compassion for self when i could let go and make space for those to increase and the awareness of the head and how self destructive I can be.
I felt a sense of expansion and was able to identify as the ocean and not the waves. It felt warm, soft and deeply healing/nurturing. Whispering ‘This belongs’ was powerful. Thank you.
louyse vallieres says
So hard to do when suffering with self-judgment. But so profoundly helpful when persevering !
Thank you so much Tara!!
Doyle Reimer says
I felt a tear and an easiness come with my judgement of myself with that exercise.
Sherry says
I find myself in a more compassionate and will be kinder for doing just enough time . I will unlearn and catch myself being a harsh critic to my self .
Anu Sarda says
sense of relief. I am ok. I am worthy.
Boris says
I felt a relief and less tense .
Averly says
Wow, that question about “What am I unwilling to feel?” is really helpful. Many times clients share that they do not feel anything. Interesting question!
Anonymous says
Thank you so much Beautiful Tara Brach
xx
Mary Hall says
I fell asleep
Susanne Brettl says
I felt a big relief when I questioned the self blame of my second arrow and I realised that it is only a creation by my mind. When I shifted from head to heartspace, I had the opportunity to evaluate my self blame on a deeper level of truth (on the level of my heart) and it turned out to be simply not true.
Begüm Soylu says
I found it a bit challenging to go from the mind to the heart area (too much thinking) and then concentrated on the image of the waves. Overall it was releiving. I feel that it will work better as I practice more of it…
Angela Mackenzie says
I really connected to how I use negative self talk and judgement instead of being with my feelings of pain, anger and jealousy. The second arrow hurts me the most.
Mimi McFaul says
I felt expanded physically and in my headspace. I felt more capacity and less “squeezed.”
Anonymous says
Very insitefull
Christine Mackinnon says
I was immediately aware of the things that I am feeling in terms of shame,
judgment, frustration and worry about my future. I then zeroed in how I felt… where was this tension centred in my body? Mostly my throat and back of my neck… then Tara requested I move from my head to my heart and give myself the self compassion I really needed and the understanding and love I really needed. I immediately felt a growing awareness and expansiveness in my whole being. “This” she said is “the heart space.”
gilligan says
Does meditation cultivate the Heart space with compassion for others and ourselves?
Robbie Byrne says
I felt I could see a way to make changes.
Anonymous says
Felt calm
Marie D.M. says
I feel more accepting of my insecurities. The question ‘what am I unwilling to feel’ is a powerful Way to get out of fixing mode and into kindness
Marie D.M. says
Relief, letting go, feeling held
Tony Ah-Vee says
I felt more compassionate and non-judgmental in respect of my feelings.
Betty Severs says
It felt calming, soothing, as if there was a bigger loving presence with me.
Solange Huang says
i feel more relaxed…more present to my body…breathing more naturally…
Daryll says
I felt calmer
Debta says
To be honest, I didn’t feel anything. The video went by quickly, and I think I blocked my feelings.
Susan-Mary Pryor says
I smiled … a smile that was barely there at first then grew … as I released into the depths of softening the kindness I showed myself gifted me. Blessings
Anonymous says
The self care is the hardest part for me
Michele McBrayer says
I have much shame over my angry outbursts. I am aware of what brings them on and chastise myself for not being able to control them. I told my child inside that she belongs and then hugged a teddy bear. I offered myself compassion by realizing that any progress is acceptable I am doing my best and my best is good enough
David says
Firstly, as I took a deep breath, I felt shivers all through my head and neck. Then I felt further tightness or pressure in the heart, and then a sense of release, easing of pressure throughout my body.
Karen Goranson says
I’m 75 years old and for the first time I was able to separate the thoughts from the feelings. The thoughts are actually in my mind. It was always one space-condemning thoughts and self-hating feelings in my heart. I always felt them as one thing. When they are separate, I see that I can deal with them in different ways and not just feel them as one. That makes it able to be healed. I’m sure it was my time to be able to hear this. Thank you so much Tara for saying it. It’s been so long and I can now see a way. Grateful.
Lois Millar says
I felt the expansion and compassion for self when i could let go and make space for those to increase and the awareness of the head and how self destructive I can be.
Jess Lemon says
I felt a sense of expansion and was able to identify as the ocean and not the waves. It felt warm, soft and deeply healing/nurturing. Whispering ‘This belongs’ was powerful. Thank you.
renee h says
more open