By Helping myself to accept by emotional over reactions I can help to u defstand how iam wired, led by my emotions and perhaps able to gain perspective and learn how to live with and let my emotions flow through me, so as to allow me to connect with and listen better to my heart
It is very difficult for me to forgive myself.
Difficult to feel how much I long for acceptance and love from myself and others.
But I see how important it is to realise what I long for
Dina Readinger, Other, Lake Saint Louis, MO, USAsays
I love your work Tara. I use it often. This is very relevant to my situation where my husband can’t forgive himself for his infidelity, and gets angry when I need affirmation that we are moving in the right direction. Saying,”It’s not your fault”, is a powerful statement I can’t wait to share with him. I love him and we plan to continue on our marriage journey. We’ve been married 30 years. I also need to remind myself, “It’s not my fault I feel this way”. Fear is a thief that robs good people of happiness and contentment.
Compassion for that part of myself, acknowledgment of its original childhood purpose, unlocks the grief, leads to self-acceptance and, ultimately change. I encourage my clients to extend compassion to those parts of themselves,and to honor the original reasons for the behaviors that they have been ashamed of, fostering the climate for change.
Thank you Tara, I am a retired Family Mediator who is embracing reinventing / rediscovering myself in this new stage of life.
This video has touched me deeply… your words are words of even deeper wisdom . I can start right away with thinking about the relationship I still feel some guilt and shame about and genuinely forgiving myself. Deborah
Letting go of the self-centered guilt & shame lets me be open to this other person as they are now, with fewer demands on how they receive me. I can let them be free and accept and honor their choices, openly, instead of serving myself.
I have been struggling with my grief of the loss of my Mum 6 years ago and Dad and recent losses of my puppy Cockapoo and my 10 year old cockapoo girl. Yet I am able to work mindfully as a Palliative care Nurse for those approaching End of Life.
Martha Spruce, Another Field, Brunswick, ME, USAsays
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so grateful for this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain inside myself.
I’ve been struggling with grieving a relationship that ended which has in turn been blocking me from opening myself up to other relationships fully. When I open myself to the possibility of forgiving myself for how I was in that relationship, I open myself to grief, which means I open myself to life, and love, too.
Martha Spruce, Another Field, Brunswick, ME, USAsays
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so intrigued by this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain.
I’m not a practitioner per se, though I sponsor women in 12 step recovery.
I found the exercise helpful in looking at my relationship with my 95 year old mother who lives with me. After 33 years of caregiving for my daughter with CP, I get impatient and have thoughts of wanting my mom to pass. saying “it’s not my fault ” for these thoughts opened my heart and let me have compassion for me.
I work with people who experience a great deal of shame which interferes with their ability to take care of and manage their total health. The resulting isolation that you ideal if sets up a terrible negative feedback loop and reduces quality of life and mortality. It’s not your fault and self-exploration on how shame creates opportunity for growth and connection really resonates with me! Thank you for this series!
Ben Bryant, Another Field, GB says
By Helping myself to accept by emotional over reactions I can help to u defstand how iam wired, led by my emotions and perhaps able to gain perspective and learn how to live with and let my emotions flow through me, so as to allow me to connect with and listen better to my heart
Traci Campbell, Counseling, Austin, TX, USA says
Thank you!!
andreea diaconu, Other, NEW YORK, NY, USA says
Beautiful
Deb Kelterborn, Nursing, Mason, MI, USA says
Thank you. So helpful!
Dori Orlowski, Teacher, Oceanside, CA, USA says
I would love this for myself and to get ideas to share with my high school yoga students I teach:)
Tracy S, Another Field, West university , TX, USA says
I feel justified in my anger toward another at the time and then hate how I feel
about myself afterwards. I’ll try forgiving myself.
Kathleen Howell, Another Field, Azusa, CA, USA says
The world needs this.
Liz Meredith, Another Field, ES says
“its not my fault” – in letting go of the blame and shame I can step out of that naughty child role and be present as a loving caring adult.
Laura Sferra, Counseling, Cda, ID, USA says
Thank you Tara. I read your book Radical Acceptance years ago and I use those concepts with my clients.
Diane Froh, Other, CA says
Your teachings have always lifted me.
Thank you
Lili van Rhijn, Other, NL says
It is very difficult for me to forgive myself.
Difficult to feel how much I long for acceptance and love from myself and others.
But I see how important it is to realise what I long for
Linda Carmi, Another Field, Rancho Mirage, CA, USA says
I listen to your podcasts each night . I like to repeat them . I’ve learned so much. Thank you.
Brianna Muller, Other, Shiprock, NM, USA says
I’m a physician and plan to use these skills for myself and my patients.
Yvette Batalla, Other, Miami, FL, USA says
Beautiful.
Amalia Gaviña, Teacher, AR says
I’m a Mindfulness Meditation practitioner and instructor. I will apply this to my life and teach it to others.
Dina Readinger, Other, Lake Saint Louis, MO, USA says
I love your work Tara. I use it often. This is very relevant to my situation where my husband can’t forgive himself for his infidelity, and gets angry when I need affirmation that we are moving in the right direction. Saying,”It’s not your fault”, is a powerful statement I can’t wait to share with him. I love him and we plan to continue on our marriage journey. We’ve been married 30 years. I also need to remind myself, “It’s not my fault I feel this way”. Fear is a thief that robs good people of happiness and contentment.
Cornelia Sofia, Other, SE says
I’m looking foward to use this with my clients
Jenny Tanesse, Coach, ZA says
Learning to forgive ourselves is the first step in learning to forgive others.
chris hunt, Coach, Palm Springs, CA, USA says
Compassion for that part of myself, acknowledgment of its original childhood purpose, unlocks the grief, leads to self-acceptance and, ultimately change. I encourage my clients to extend compassion to those parts of themselves,and to honor the original reasons for the behaviors that they have been ashamed of, fostering the climate for change.
Becky Stone, Student, Oakland, CA, USA says
It takes as long as it takes
Caroline Miller, Naturopathic Physician, GB says
Thank you
Rebeka Rebeka, Teacher, BE says
mindful presence
Carlos Garcia, Dentistry, Cary, NC, USA says
Thank you for the marvelous guidensce . Very helping advice. But my wife does not get it. Her vengance attitude is stone.
Have a Blessed Lent Season
Carol B, Other, Bv, CO, USA says
More help the better , thank you
Furio Picco, Nursing, Ramona , CA, USA says
I appreciate this presentation. A good choice to address shame.
Deborah Blake, Other, CA says
Thank you Tara, I am a retired Family Mediator who is embracing reinventing / rediscovering myself in this new stage of life.
This video has touched me deeply… your words are words of even deeper wisdom . I can start right away with thinking about the relationship I still feel some guilt and shame about and genuinely forgiving myself. Deborah
Tabitha Edera, Another Field, DE says
Serenity
Nick H, Another Field, Indianapolis, IN, USA says
Letting go of the self-centered guilt & shame lets me be open to this other person as they are now, with fewer demands on how they receive me. I can let them be free and accept and honor their choices, openly, instead of serving myself.
Meir Moshel, Another Field, Jackson , NJ, USA says
so beautiful to see how when we let go of that guilt and shame, we melt into that ocean of compassion.
Dalma Adriany, Another Field, HU says
Wonderful tools!
Amanda Beasley, Other, Pagosa springs, CO, USA says
I’m excited to see this!
Lola Peretz, Another Field, PR says
thank you!
Martina Torppa, Medicine, FI says
Advising forgivness
Robert Formby, Nursing, GB says
I have been struggling with my grief of the loss of my Mum 6 years ago and Dad and recent losses of my puppy Cockapoo and my 10 year old cockapoo girl. Yet I am able to work mindfully as a Palliative care Nurse for those approaching End of Life.
Emma Forsyth, Physical Therapy, GB says
Struggling with guilt about my mother having to go into a care home and that I didn’t take care of her
Ellen Gehrke, Teacher, Encinitas, CA, USA says
very helpful. I need to forgive me for a harmful relationship to me.
Martha Spruce, Another Field, Brunswick, ME, USA says
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so grateful for this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain inside myself.
Wendy Quinton, Social Work, Elysburg, PA, USA says
‘The trance of unworthiness’ is such a limiting place to live 😟
Claw, Teacher, BR says
I’ve been struggling with grieving a relationship that ended which has in turn been blocking me from opening myself up to other relationships fully. When I open myself to the possibility of forgiving myself for how I was in that relationship, I open myself to grief, which means I open myself to life, and love, too.
Martha Spruce, Another Field, Brunswick, ME, USA says
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so intrigued by this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain.
Beverly DeLorenzo, Other, Montrose , CO, USA says
forgiving & accepting myself allows greater understanding & acceptance of this other person
Susan Cybele, Other, PORTLAND, OR, USA says
I’m not a practitioner per se, though I sponsor women in 12 step recovery.
I found the exercise helpful in looking at my relationship with my 95 year old mother who lives with me. After 33 years of caregiving for my daughter with CP, I get impatient and have thoughts of wanting my mom to pass. saying “it’s not my fault ” for these thoughts opened my heart and let me have compassion for me.
Allison Miller, Psychotherapy, Exeter, NH, USA says
Thank you for your ongoing sharing.
Casey Threatte, Other, Warrington, PA, USA says
I am sick and tired of being reactive. I want peace for myself and peace for those I love.
Bel Bar, Teacher, AU says
thankyou for this 🙏🏻
Becky Morehead, Counseling, Carnation, WA, USA says
Learning to forgive myself and appreciate my parts.
Mela London, Another Field, New York, NY, USA says
Thank you very much. I realize that this may be at the root of my fear of intimacy-
Marta Ramos, Coach, ES says
I love that how we relate to ourselves directly influences in how we relate to others , thank you
Vanessa Graham, Other, GB says
I agree
Debbie Cestaro-Seifer, Nursing, VI says
I work with people who experience a great deal of shame which interferes with their ability to take care of and manage their total health. The resulting isolation that you ideal if sets up a terrible negative feedback loop and reduces quality of life and mortality. It’s not your fault and self-exploration on how shame creates opportunity for growth and connection really resonates with me! Thank you for this series!
Elizabeth Lancaster, Coach, CA says
Paradoxically, genuinely forgiving myself makes my self recede and leaves room for being present.
Seema Hollenberg, Supervisor, CA says
I continue to learn as I journey through life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and guidance.