By Helping myself to accept by emotional over reactions I can help to u defstand how iam wired, led by my emotions and perhaps able to gain perspective and learn how to live with and let my emotions flow through me, so as to allow me to connect with and listen better to my heart
It is very difficult for me to forgive myself.
Difficult to feel how much I long for acceptance and love from myself and others.
But I see how important it is to realise what I long for
Dina Readinger, Other, Lake Saint Louis, MO, USAsays
I love your work Tara. I use it often. This is very relevant to my situation where my husband can’t forgive himself for his infidelity, and gets angry when I need affirmation that we are moving in the right direction. Saying,”It’s not your fault”, is a powerful statement I can’t wait to share with him. I love him and we plan to continue on our marriage journey. We’ve been married 30 years. I also need to remind myself, “It’s not my fault I feel this way”. Fear is a thief that robs good people of happiness and contentment.
Compassion for that part of myself, acknowledgment of its original childhood purpose, unlocks the grief, leads to self-acceptance and, ultimately change. I encourage my clients to extend compassion to those parts of themselves,and to honor the original reasons for the behaviors that they have been ashamed of, fostering the climate for change.
Thank you Tara, I am a retired Family Mediator who is embracing reinventing / rediscovering myself in this new stage of life.
This video has touched me deeply… your words are words of even deeper wisdom . I can start right away with thinking about the relationship I still feel some guilt and shame about and genuinely forgiving myself. Deborah
Letting go of the self-centered guilt & shame lets me be open to this other person as they are now, with fewer demands on how they receive me. I can let them be free and accept and honor their choices, openly, instead of serving myself.
I have been struggling with my grief of the loss of my Mum 6 years ago and Dad and recent losses of my puppy Cockapoo and my 10 year old cockapoo girl. Yet I am able to work mindfully as a Palliative care Nurse for those approaching End of Life.
Martha Spruce, Another Field, Brunswick, ME, USAsays
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so grateful for this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain inside myself.
I’ve been struggling with grieving a relationship that ended which has in turn been blocking me from opening myself up to other relationships fully. When I open myself to the possibility of forgiving myself for how I was in that relationship, I open myself to grief, which means I open myself to life, and love, too.
Martha Spruce, Another Field, Brunswick, ME, USAsays
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so intrigued by this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain.
I’m not a practitioner per se, though I sponsor women in 12 step recovery.
I found the exercise helpful in looking at my relationship with my 95 year old mother who lives with me. After 33 years of caregiving for my daughter with CP, I get impatient and have thoughts of wanting my mom to pass. saying “it’s not my fault ” for these thoughts opened my heart and let me have compassion for me.
I work with people who experience a great deal of shame which interferes with their ability to take care of and manage their total health. The resulting isolation that you ideal if sets up a terrible negative feedback loop and reduces quality of life and mortality. It’s not your fault and self-exploration on how shame creates opportunity for growth and connection really resonates with me! Thank you for this series!
By Helping myself to accept by emotional over reactions I can help to u defstand how iam wired, led by my emotions and perhaps able to gain perspective and learn how to live with and let my emotions flow through me, so as to allow me to connect with and listen better to my heart
Thank you!!
Beautiful
Thank you. So helpful!
I would love this for myself and to get ideas to share with my high school yoga students I teach:)
I feel justified in my anger toward another at the time and then hate how I feel
about myself afterwards. I’ll try forgiving myself.
The world needs this.
“its not my fault” – in letting go of the blame and shame I can step out of that naughty child role and be present as a loving caring adult.
Thank you Tara. I read your book Radical Acceptance years ago and I use those concepts with my clients.
Your teachings have always lifted me.
Thank you
It is very difficult for me to forgive myself.
Difficult to feel how much I long for acceptance and love from myself and others.
But I see how important it is to realise what I long for
I listen to your podcasts each night . I like to repeat them . I’ve learned so much. Thank you.
I’m a physician and plan to use these skills for myself and my patients.
Beautiful.
I’m a Mindfulness Meditation practitioner and instructor. I will apply this to my life and teach it to others.
I love your work Tara. I use it often. This is very relevant to my situation where my husband can’t forgive himself for his infidelity, and gets angry when I need affirmation that we are moving in the right direction. Saying,”It’s not your fault”, is a powerful statement I can’t wait to share with him. I love him and we plan to continue on our marriage journey. We’ve been married 30 years. I also need to remind myself, “It’s not my fault I feel this way”. Fear is a thief that robs good people of happiness and contentment.
I’m looking foward to use this with my clients
Learning to forgive ourselves is the first step in learning to forgive others.
Compassion for that part of myself, acknowledgment of its original childhood purpose, unlocks the grief, leads to self-acceptance and, ultimately change. I encourage my clients to extend compassion to those parts of themselves,and to honor the original reasons for the behaviors that they have been ashamed of, fostering the climate for change.
It takes as long as it takes
Thank you
mindful presence
Thank you for the marvelous guidensce . Very helping advice. But my wife does not get it. Her vengance attitude is stone.
Have a Blessed Lent Season
More help the better , thank you
I appreciate this presentation. A good choice to address shame.
Thank you Tara, I am a retired Family Mediator who is embracing reinventing / rediscovering myself in this new stage of life.
This video has touched me deeply… your words are words of even deeper wisdom . I can start right away with thinking about the relationship I still feel some guilt and shame about and genuinely forgiving myself. Deborah
Serenity
Letting go of the self-centered guilt & shame lets me be open to this other person as they are now, with fewer demands on how they receive me. I can let them be free and accept and honor their choices, openly, instead of serving myself.
so beautiful to see how when we let go of that guilt and shame, we melt into that ocean of compassion.
Wonderful tools!
I’m excited to see this!
thank you!
Advising forgivness
I have been struggling with my grief of the loss of my Mum 6 years ago and Dad and recent losses of my puppy Cockapoo and my 10 year old cockapoo girl. Yet I am able to work mindfully as a Palliative care Nurse for those approaching End of Life.
Struggling with guilt about my mother having to go into a care home and that I didn’t take care of her
very helpful. I need to forgive me for a harmful relationship to me.
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so grateful for this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain inside myself.
‘The trance of unworthiness’ is such a limiting place to live 😟
I’ve been struggling with grieving a relationship that ended which has in turn been blocking me from opening myself up to other relationships fully. When I open myself to the possibility of forgiving myself for how I was in that relationship, I open myself to grief, which means I open myself to life, and love, too.
What a deeply sensitive way to work actively with shame and guilt! I am so intrigued by this way of working gently and effectively with such hardened states of pain.
forgiving & accepting myself allows greater understanding & acceptance of this other person
I’m not a practitioner per se, though I sponsor women in 12 step recovery.
I found the exercise helpful in looking at my relationship with my 95 year old mother who lives with me. After 33 years of caregiving for my daughter with CP, I get impatient and have thoughts of wanting my mom to pass. saying “it’s not my fault ” for these thoughts opened my heart and let me have compassion for me.
Thank you for your ongoing sharing.
I am sick and tired of being reactive. I want peace for myself and peace for those I love.
thankyou for this 🙏🏻
Learning to forgive myself and appreciate my parts.
Thank you very much. I realize that this may be at the root of my fear of intimacy-
I love that how we relate to ourselves directly influences in how we relate to others , thank you
I agree
I work with people who experience a great deal of shame which interferes with their ability to take care of and manage their total health. The resulting isolation that you ideal if sets up a terrible negative feedback loop and reduces quality of life and mortality. It’s not your fault and self-exploration on how shame creates opportunity for growth and connection really resonates with me! Thank you for this series!
Paradoxically, genuinely forgiving myself makes my self recede and leaves room for being present.
I continue to learn as I journey through life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and guidance.