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How to Work with a Client’s Core Feeling of Defectiveness

woman with with feelings of defectivenesswoman with with feelings of defectivenessFor some clients, there’s a core belief that underlies many of the clinical issues they bring to therapy – a sense of defectiveness.

When a client feels defective, they’re often plagued by shame and self-doubt.

It can leave them feeling like they’re unworthy of change (which is why we often see self-sabotage and regression).

To add to the problem, these entrenched beliefs usually can’t be touched by reason or logic alone . . .

. . . and for many clients, each failed attempt to shift feelings of defectiveness often only amplifies their intensity.

So how can we overcome these therapeutic obstacles and help clients break free of a painful core belief that they’re fundamentally flawed?

We brought this question to 18 of the top minds in the field. Presenting . . .

How to Work with Feelings of Defectiveness

How to Work with Trauma-Fueled Feelings of Defectiveness

Janina Fisher, PhD   Terry Real, LICSW   Eboni Webb, PsyD  
Frank Anderson, MD   Zindel Segal, PhD   Dennis Tirch, PhD  
Chris Willard, PsyD
  • Two Specific Ways to Recognize Trauma-Based Feelings of Defectiveness
  • How to Address Feelings of Defectiveness Tied to a Client’s Trauma Narrative
  • A Parts Approach to Help Clients Externalize and Distance Themselves from Feelings of Defectiveness
  • One Strategy to Skillfully Attune to a Client’s Trauma-Based Feelings of Defectiveness

How to Work with Feelings of Defectiveness That Stem From Attachment Disturbances

Terry Real, LICSW   Eboni Webb, PsyD  
Joan Borysenko, PhD   Deany Laliotis, LICSW   Chris Willard, PsyD
  • One Attachment Style That’s Disproportionately Associated with Feelings of Defectiveness (and How to Work with It)
  • Strategies to Help Clients Begin to Cultivate Self-Compassion and Develop Secure Attachment
  • Steps to Help Clients Better Understand the Childhood Origins of Their Feelings of Defectiveness

How to Shift Cognitive Patterns That Reinforce Feelings of Defectiveness

Frank Anderson, MD   Michael Yapko, PhD  
Lynn Lyons, LICSW   Zindel Segal, PhD
  • One Specific Cognitive Style That Often Fuels Feelings of Defectiveness
  • A Parts Approach That Can Help Shift Defective Thoughts
  • Specific Questions To Ask Clients Who Struggle with an All-Encompassing Sense of Defectiveness
  • How to Approach the Underlying Factors That May Influence a Client’s Sense of Defectiveness

Practices That Can Counteract and Diminish Feelings of Defectiveness

Dennis Tirch, PhD   Russell Kolts, PhD  
Zindel Segal, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD
  • A Three-Step Process to Help Clients Develop Self-Compassion
  • How to Skillfully Introduce New Ideas to Clients Whose Feelings of Defectiveness Spur Resistance to Change
  • Specific Mindfulness Practices That Can Help Shift a Client’s Relationship with Feelings of Defectiveness
  • Strategies to Ease Critical Thoughts and Help Boost a Client’s Self-Worth

Strategies to Help Clients Dislodge Persistent Feelings of Defectiveness

Janina Fisher, PhD   Ellyn Bader, PhD   George Faller, MS, LMFT  
Chris Willard, PsyD   Christine Padesky, PhD   Michael Yapko, PhD  
Russell Kolts, PhD   Lynn Lyons, LICSW
  • A Three-Step Process to Help Clients Lean Into the Potential for Change
  • Two Ways to Challenge a Client’s Narrative of Defectiveness
  • One Critical Choice Clients Have to Make to Shed Feelings of Defectiveness (and How to Help Guide Them Through It)
  • A Simple Exercise That Can Increase a Client’s Awareness of Damaging Self-Talk

How to Overcome the Unique Challenges of Treating Feelings of Defectiveness

Christine Padesky, PhD   Russell Kolts, PhD   George Faller, MS, LMFT  
Frank Anderson, MD   Lynn Lyons, LICSW   Janina Fisher, PhD  
Kelly Wilson, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD
  • One Oversight That Can Decrease the Effectiveness of Interventions with Clients Who Feel Defective
  • Six Common Blocks That Can Arise When Treating Feelings of Defectiveness (and How to Work Around Them)
  • A Potential False Start to Avoid When a Client Presents with Feelings of Defectiveness (and Where to Start Instead)
  • One Common Misconception About Feelings of Defectiveness That Can Lead Treatment Awry

The Impact of Feelings of Defectiveness on a Client’s Relationships (and How to Work with It)

Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD   Kelly Wilson, PhD   Joan Borysenko, PhD  
Chris Willard, PsyD   George Faller, MS, LMFT   Ellyn Bader, PhD  
Russell Kolts, PhD
  • Five Specific Ways Feelings Defective Can Impact Relationships (and How to Address Them)
  • A Three-Step Strategy to Help Clients Who Feel Defective Repair Ruptures (and Potentially Prevent Future Ones)
  • Practical Exercises to Help Clients Better Support Partners Who Feel Defective

Register Here for $197

You’ll get all the videos, audios, transcripts, and learning tools
to help you work with clients who struggle with persistent feelings of defectiveness
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Up to 9 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.

Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures

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We invite you to register for this training program without any risk. Unless you are completely satisfied, we will refund your money. Just let us know within 30 days from the date of registration. We are that confident that you will find this information to be more than you expected.

For This Short Course, We Brought Together Some of the Top Experts in the Field

Janina Fisher, PhD

Licensed clinical psychologist and Instructor at the Trauma Center, an outpatient clinic and research center founded by Bessel van der Kolk, MD; past president of the New England Society for the Treatment of Trauma and Dissociation.

Terry Real, MSW, LICSW

Founder of the Relational Life Institute; Author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression and The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work.

Eboni Webb, PsyD

Licensed psychologist; specializes in DBT for trauma-based disorders and co-occurring disorders; advisor to the DBT National Certification Accreditation Association.

Kelly Wilson, PhD

Co-author of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: An Experiential Approach to Behavior Change; Founder of OneLife Education Training, LLC.

Frank Anderson, MD

Licensed psychiatrist and psychotherapist; program consultant for the IFS Institute; advisor to the International Association of Trauma Professionals; author of Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems.

Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD

Professor of Counseling, Developmental, and Educational Psychology at Boston College; Author of Psychoanalytic Theory and Cultural Competence in Psychotherapy; Co-author of Applying Multiculturalism: An Ecological Approach to the Multicultural Guidelines.

Deany Laliotis, LICSW

Director of Training at EMDR Institute; Specialist in treatment of traumatic stress disorders and attachment issues; author of chapters and articles on EMDR therapy.

Christine Padesky, PhD

Co-founder of the Center for Cognitive Therapy in Huntington Beach, California; Co-creator of Strengths-Based CBT; Co-author of Mind Over Mood and Collaborative Case Conceptualization.

Michael Yapko, PhD

Leading expert in clinical hypnosis and treating depression; Clinical psychologist and author of 15 books including his newest books, The Discriminating Therapist and Keys to Unlocking Depression.

Joan Borysenko, PhD

Founder of Mind/Body Health Sciences LLC; Author of New York Times Bestseller Minding the Body, Mending the Mind.

Ellyn Bader, PhD

Co-creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy; Co-director of The Couples Institute.

Lynn Lyons, LICSW

Author of Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous & Independent Children, clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in anxiety in adults and children.

Dennis Tirch, PhD

Founding Director of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy; President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation of North America; co-author of Experiencing ACT from the Inside Out: A Self-Practice/Self-Reflection Workbook for Therapists.

Zindel Segal, PhD

A founder of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT); Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto.

Ron Siegel, PsyD

Assistant Professor of Psychology, part time, Harvard Medical School; Author of The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems and Sitting Together: Essential Skills for Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy.

Elliott Connie, MA, LPC

Licensed psychotherapist; founder and Director of The Solution Focused University; co-author of The Art of Solution Focused Therapy.

Christopher Willard, PsyD

Psychologist and educational consultant specializing in mindfulness; president of the Mindfulness in Education Network; serves on the board of directors at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy.

Russell Kolts, PhD

Clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at Eastern Washington University; Founder and Director of the Inland Northwest Compassionate Mind Center; author of The Compassionate Mind Approach to Managing Your Anger.

George Faller, MS, LMFT

Licensed marriage and family therapist; founder and President of the New York Center for EFT; retired Lieutenant of the NYC Fire Department.

Course Director

Ruth Buczynski, PhD

Dr. Ruth Buczynski is a licensed psychologist and founder and president of The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM). NICABM helps physicians, nurses, psychologists, social workers, and counselors – practitioners who have some of the most significant and life-changing missions on the planet – provide cutting-edge, research-based treatment strategies to their patients. For more than 35 years, NICABM has offered accredited training and professional development programs to thousands of practitioners worldwide.

Program Co-Host

Ashley Vigil-Otero, PsyD

Dr. Ashley Vigil-Otero is a licensed clinical psychologist and program developer at NICABM. Her education and experience include training at Harvard Medical School, Cambridge Health Alliance and Vanderbilt University. Dr. Vigil-Otero has a private practice in Florida, where she specializes in compassion-oriented psychotherapy with clients across the lifespan. She is passionate about raising public awareness on mental health, resilience, and well-being.

Here's What You'll Get:

Everything is yours to keep forever in your professional library

Check mark Downloadable videos of all 8 modules so you can watch at your convenience, on any device
Check mark Audio recordings you can download and listen to at home, in the car, at the gym or wherever you like
Check mark Critical Insights sessions to distill key ideas (this is where we “land” the session)
Check mark Focus on Application sessions to give you concrete strategies to use with your clients
Check mark Professionally-formatted transcripts of the sessions, to make review and action simple

Get a Special Bonus Session That Gives You Even More Strategies for Working with a Client’s Feelings of Defectiveness

How to Interrupt the Intergenerational Transmission of Feelings of Defectiveness

Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD   Michael Yapko, PhD  
Zindel Segal, PhD   Chris Willard, PsyD   George Faller, MS, LMFT
  • Strategies to Target Internalized Messages That Perpetuate Feelings of Defectiveness
  • How to Shift Feelings of Defectiveness That are Rooted in a Client’s Family of Origin

Plus, All 9 Modules Come with Practical Tools to Help You Take Action Immediately and Effectively

Synthesize Key Concepts So You Can Use Them Immediately

Ron Siegel, PsyD and Usha Tummala-Narra, PhD sit down with Ruth Buczynski, PhD for 8 Critical Insights sessions to dig more deeply into the ideas from each module. They’ll clarify critical concepts and break down key strategies so you can gain confidence in your understanding.

critical insights

Discover Concrete Practices That Will Work for Your Patients

Over the course of 8 Focus on Application sessions, we’ll turn smart ideas into easy-to-integrate applications for your work. Eboni Webb, PsyD and Chris Willard, PsyD join Ashley Vigil-Otero, PsyD to give you specific practices and exercises based on the ideas from each module. You’ll get strategies you can use with your clients as soon as your very next session.

focus on application

Register Here for $197

You’ll get all the videos, audios, transcripts, and learning tools
to help you work with clients who struggle with persistent feelings of defectiveness
Sign Me Up

Up to 9 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.

Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures

30 Day Money Back Guarantee

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We invite you to register for this training program without any risk. Unless you are completely satisfied, we will refund your money. Just let us know within 30 days from the date of registration. We are that confident that you will find this information to be more than you expected.

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Why the Transcript Is Essential:

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  • The transcript makes it easy to go back and double check concepts, citations and names that are mentioned
  • We put in a table of contents to make it easy for you to find the exact part of the webinar you need
  • Having the concepts already written allows you to take notes on how you’re going to use the ideas rather than transcribing the ideas
  • Some people simply learn better by reading than by listening or watching
  • You will be able to print out and share techniques presented in the session with your patients

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Kelowna, British Colombia, Canada

30 Day Money Back Guarantee

You Are Protected By
NICABM’s Money-Back Guarantee

We invite you to register for this training program without any risk. Unless you are completely satisfied, we will refund your money. Just let us know within 30 days from the date of registration. We are that confident that you will find this information to be more than you expected.

Register Here for $197

You’ll get all the videos, audios, transcripts, and learning tools
to help you work with clients who struggle with persistent feelings of defectiveness
Sign Me Up

Up to 9 CE/CME Credits or Clock Hours are available for purchase at checkout.

Click HERE to get information about CE/CME credits and clock hours as well as speaker disclosures

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