I found when I tried to forgive myself for my anger at my brother, I can’t imagine not feeling that way, and I’ve never thought I could simply forgive myself. What you said about vengeance being a lazy form of grief is so true. Parts of me want his love, and I’ve observed the same in him too.
Thank you, because I’ve always felt my reactions and what has happened “To me” is my fault, as a karmic lesson, and can never quite allow the hurt feelings, or anger to be forgiven. It’s like a loop with no way out, so the teaching in this video has really helped.
Forgiving myself allows me to be more open with myself, more curious with what is going, and more patient with myself.nit turn, I am able to extend these same qualities with others.
I so much appreciate your different perspective to shame guilt and anger. I understand it relates as much as betrayal to others as to betrayal of self.
I had specific clients in mind as I was going through the videos. This information and the tools you have shared can touch so many lives. Thank you for providing this for free so we can continue to better help others!
Cynthia Passmore, Student, Winchester Bay, OR, USAsays
“Vengeance is a lazy form of grief”, made an impression on me. As a beginner’s mind I find this true, now that my perspective is changing to accept things as they are. Vengeance for me plays out in my mind over and over and takes many forms inside my heart and head; all along reminding myself Vengeance is not mine. It becomes all consuming and makes my world very small. Some day, I can see now, my world will be big enough for me.
Sea R Glassman, Other, Los Angeles, CA, USA says
Thanks always for your gentle insights. Send! xo
Caroline Andrews, Coach, GB says
I found when I tried to forgive myself for my anger at my brother, I can’t imagine not feeling that way, and I’ve never thought I could simply forgive myself. What you said about vengeance being a lazy form of grief is so true. Parts of me want his love, and I’ve observed the same in him too.
Thank you, because I’ve always felt my reactions and what has happened “To me” is my fault, as a karmic lesson, and can never quite allow the hurt feelings, or anger to be forgiven. It’s like a loop with no way out, so the teaching in this video has really helped.
Annie williams, Other, GB says
I now see that not forgiving myself is the barrier I must address first and foremost.
Ann Dyduch, Psychotherapy, CA says
I would be less defensive and more conversive, open to talk about my hurt feelings when I didn’t feel heard by her, a pattern for me.
A Shaffer, Coach, Washington, DC, USA says
It is not my fault – the most radical thought of all
Adriane D, Student, CA says
we cannot give to anyone else what we do not already have
Niki A. Barpagianni, Psychology, GR says
Thank you Tara. Using the phrase it’s not my fault brought me tears.
Leah freij, Nursing, Fairfax, VA, USA says
Forgiving myself allows me to be more open with myself, more curious with what is going, and more patient with myself.nit turn, I am able to extend these same qualities with others.
Nina Mongiello, Teacher, SOUTH LAKE TAHOE, CA, USA says
It will allow me to be more loving and kind to my partner. I can see myself softer and joyful
Catherina S, Counseling, DE says
Forgiving myself for what I’ve done that hurt the other helps me continue the relationship with more lightness. It’s like starting a new chapter.
Sara Aerssens, Physical Therapy, BE says
Thank you. For the first time i felt forgiving myself could actually change the relationship.
Ed, Other, NL says
I so much appreciate your different perspective to shame guilt and anger. I understand it relates as much as betrayal to others as to betrayal of self.
David Irvine, Counseling, GB says
Thank you Tara. using the phrase it’s not my fault softened some of the pain around my guilt and shame. A glimpse of how I might heal myself.
Michelle Molina, Psychology, Irvine, CA, USA says
I had specific clients in mind as I was going through the videos. This information and the tools you have shared can touch so many lives. Thank you for providing this for free so we can continue to better help others!
rosalimd feldsher, Counseling, pennvalley, PA, USA says
very helpful.
Cynthia Passmore, Student, Winchester Bay, OR, USA says
“Vengeance is a lazy form of grief”, made an impression on me. As a beginner’s mind I find this true, now that my perspective is changing to accept things as they are. Vengeance for me plays out in my mind over and over and takes many forms inside my heart and head; all along reminding myself Vengeance is not mine. It becomes all consuming and makes my world very small. Some day, I can see now, my world will be big enough for me.