It’s hard to recognize and bring forward these relationships. I need more time to think about it and internalize what you are saying but I really appreciate the course and the idea behind it. Thanks for helping me always
I believe when I forgive myself I leave much more room for love of others.. it’s hard to love others when I’m resentful at myself. Self forgiveness opens my heart and allows me to just be present
Forgiving is for getting. In forgiving, you are not only giving pardon, but also and moreover freeing yourself from great burden and gaining peace and renewal.
I believe trauma induced shame is at the root of so much pain and blockage between they heavy, tight, and constricting way things are and the light, loose, open way they can be, if and when I learn to accept and metabolize that would.
Powerful exercise Tara. Many thanks! I continue to ground myself as I work with people with addictions teaching meditation, yoga and martial arts. You’re work always helps to keep me grounded and motivated,particularly when I may have had a more challenging interaction while teaching.
I realized my people pleasing behaviors are just like Sam’s — out of my control. I tried to imagine forgiving myself instead of feeling ashamed. I think this might help and am willing to keep trying.
Thank you for this poignant teaching. The African saying that, ‘vengeance is a lazy form of grief’ explained an interaction with a family member, and my own tendency to blame myself, feel guilt resulting in self-denigration. Hearing, ‘It’s not your fault’ was what I needed to hear. Your message led to a lot of journalling and clarifying the anger as being deep hurt and sadness, and the feeling that I never mattered to anyone, was not respected. It’s not my fault.
I have been following Tara for some years; excited to work with this latest resource for letting go of shame and guilt (of which I still carry a lot). ☺️
Surprised there is no professional category for “writer”!
Thanks for sharing this.
I still have a lot of what I spoke about .
I do have to say it is not my fault.
I have spoke to a personal coach. Who is spiritual Mind it. She did tell me a couple of times to say it was not my fault.
Namaste 🙏
Thanks
Many blessings.
Forgiving and accepting myself would help me stop fighting and demanding to get the recognition and respect I want from my husband when I understand I don’t have to do anything I think I would get more of what i would like to have
By showing love and compassion and forgiving myself, I am acknowledging that I am important, I am worthy and I love myself. Only when I love myself and understand that I behaved badly because I didn’t know better can I start to heal. I am realizing that at any given moment I can have bad judgement and not be proud of who I am. I can be kind and forgiving and try to improve myself because I want to be a better human being. It’s a journey but I know I am on the right path.
By softening peoples responses so they are more open and receptive to communicating more effectively. Allowing for more compassion and understanding within relationship.
Foster feeling better about oneself so more relaxed, open, less defensive and guarded etc
Megan Velasquez says
It feels like a weight lifted.
Karen Ludovici says
stress has caused me to lash out at my husband, daughter and son. all of who I love very much
tamia soto says
It’s hard to recognize and bring forward these relationships. I need more time to think about it and internalize what you are saying but I really appreciate the course and the idea behind it. Thanks for helping me always
wendy schwartz says
It’s difficult to imagine achieving this. But taking the first step is the way to get there.
Catherine G says
Connecting with emotions of the past brings pain and shame. Guilt is not an issue. Not there yet (I mean in the present).
Jane Granskog says
Recognizing the importance of belonging to myself is the key to forgiveness. I appreciate your words of wisdom, Tara!
Julia Van Huizen says
I like the image of holding myself and forgiving myself.
Metod Hocevar says
I love Tara Brach talks and meditations.She is a true healer and precious gift to the world.Thank you Tara..❤️
Metod
Colleen King says
I believe when I forgive myself I leave much more room for love of others.. it’s hard to love others when I’m resentful at myself. Self forgiveness opens my heart and allows me to just be present
Joanna petlin says
Seems like a leap of faith, yet it opens the path to genuine loving relationships.
Thank you, Tara
Rachel Henrichs says
Forgiving is for getting. In forgiving, you are not only giving pardon, but also and moreover freeing yourself from great burden and gaining peace and renewal.
Andrea Silver says
I felt my guilt over mistakes I made while my daughter was growing up and how they impacted her.
Jess J says
Softening and opening my heart to myself, which in turn will bring compassion both inward and outward.
Judith Rogers says
Tara Brach is giving us invaluable resources.
Ann Si says
Thank you for this gift and your contribution.
Michael Million says
I believe trauma induced shame is at the root of so much pain and blockage between they heavy, tight, and constricting way things are and the light, loose, open way they can be, if and when I learn to accept and metabolize that would.
Kathy McCall says
I’m learning it’s healthy to let go of unhealthy people, that triggers emotional wounds .
Steve Kaban says
Powerful exercise Tara. Many thanks! I continue to ground myself as I work with people with addictions teaching meditation, yoga and martial arts. You’re work always helps to keep me grounded and motivated,particularly when I may have had a more challenging interaction while teaching.
Trini Cubillos says
🙂
Michelle Mistelske says
I realized my people pleasing behaviors are just like Sam’s — out of my control. I tried to imagine forgiving myself instead of feeling ashamed. I think this might help and am willing to keep trying.
Gwen Cawsey says
Thank you for offering your insights. I hope to be more compassionate with myself.
David Black says
another very practical insight
Isabelle Wozniak says
Thank you!
Namaste and blessings! 🙏
Tenzin Dronme says
Thank you
Rebecca I says
Self forgiveness means breaking the cycle of shame and unhealthy ways of expressing anger.
Alexis Kroon says
I have no idea how to forgive, either myself or others.
J Martin says
This talk was enlightening. I look forward to the talks that follow. Thank you.
Hannah Smith says
Thank you for making this available
Sallie Crawford says
When I am gentle w/myself, I feel calm, and hopefully that will communicate peace to those around me.
Kay Rea says
Working on shame, thank you Tara
Gyan Tomasic says
Thank you for this poignant teaching. The African saying that, ‘vengeance is a lazy form of grief’ explained an interaction with a family member, and my own tendency to blame myself, feel guilt resulting in self-denigration. Hearing, ‘It’s not your fault’ was what I needed to hear. Your message led to a lot of journalling and clarifying the anger as being deep hurt and sadness, and the feeling that I never mattered to anyone, was not respected. It’s not my fault.
Steven Lane says
I have been following Tara for some years; excited to work with this latest resource for letting go of shame and guilt (of which I still carry a lot). ☺️
Surprised there is no professional category for “writer”!
Ruth Levy says
accepting parts of ourselves, leaning in to self-compassion, IS the healing.
Thank you 🙏
Ursula Kimberley says
It would be more connected and true. Open and real.
Rulik Perla says
Thank you Tara,
Always inspiring
Zhu Mo says
More honesty.
Kate Lynn says
Result in more embodiment and ability to connect with themselves and others. Thanks for sharing these free videos!
Joe Dopp says
Thanks for sharing this.
I still have a lot of what I spoke about .
I do have to say it is not my fault.
I have spoke to a personal coach. Who is spiritual Mind it. She did tell me a couple of times to say it was not my fault.
Namaste 🙏
Thanks
Many blessings.
Mary Vail Grube says
Forgiving and accepting myself would help me stop fighting and demanding to get the recognition and respect I want from my husband when I understand I don’t have to do anything I think I would get more of what i would like to have
Sho says
By showing love and compassion and forgiving myself, I am acknowledging that I am important, I am worthy and I love myself. Only when I love myself and understand that I behaved badly because I didn’t know better can I start to heal. I am realizing that at any given moment I can have bad judgement and not be proud of who I am. I can be kind and forgiving and try to improve myself because I want to be a better human being. It’s a journey but I know I am on the right path.
Barb Crosby says
Thank you Tara.
I took a big sigh of relief. I do forgive myself.
Lynda Brown says
Thank you. Its worth a try. Its not my fault.
Lynda
Marianne Giblin says
There is so much grief and loss at the core of it! Self forgiveness is a slower process for me.😪 Thank you for an excellent lesson🙏🏼
Michelle Plaisted says
By softening peoples responses so they are more open and receptive to communicating more effectively. Allowing for more compassion and understanding within relationship.
Foster feeling better about oneself so more relaxed, open, less defensive and guarded etc
R V says
Thank you 🙏🏼.
Gaye Sutton Woodcock says
A very simple but effective reminder of how easy it can be to care not only for clients but for self as well. Thank you Tara, once again.
Nancy Drope says
Genuinely forgive myself 🙏🏻 Thank you Tara you are a gift to my Being.🌸
David Boswell says
Tara, thank you for brining up this theme during this time in history.
Jane Doman says
Thank you. Very helpful.
Carol Williamson says
Helpful, thank you.
I want to forgive self and also forgive others