Dave Evans, Psychotherapy, Hoffman Estates, IL, USAsays
It was so true for me that my inner negative voice did not want to “go along with” cultivating a kind attitude toward what is going on in me today. That part always wants to be stern and critical, pushing for something more or better. I’m looking forward to more wise words and practice to bring out this kindness! Thank you, Tara ♥️
Sharron Kochman, Social Work, Fair Oaks, CA, USAsays
I felt fear for my next step in my life.I felt foolish that finally at 43 yr special relationship I couldn’t behave in a way to help it last. I am scared to be alone. It is what I have been told would happen if I didn’t change. Now I’m there and alone.
Linda Lois Churchill, Another Field, Campbell, CA, USAsays
I am finding it easier and easier to love myself each day…… baby steps. Enrolled in the loving compassion course which has truly affected this outcome. I just have such a difficult time with the website but I am finally getting the hang of it……smiles
Natalie Mahler, Another Field, Wenatchee, WA, USAsays
I had a deep feeling of being stuck. I really struggle to identify my feelings, and I stay busy or check out in order to avoid them. I think I feel ashamed of how I touch with myself I am. I didn’t even like acknowledging that I felt stuck, but I did have a fleeting moment of considering how I could be gentle to myself while I am stuck. If it entertaining the possibility of allowing myself to beat that was new.
As a chronic illness patient with a serious autoimmune disease, it can be tough to be present and allow myself to just feel what comes up in my body–physically and emotionally. I felt a softness and an ease in my breathing and felt an internal sigh of relief–that it was okay for me to just let go and relax. I have followed Tara for many years and have done her R.A.I.N meditations. Thank you, Tara, for reminding me that I deserve self-compassion and peace.
Joyce Kennedy, Another Field, Benicia, CA, USAsays
Thank you Tara Brach! Allowing and accepting all of my emotions and allowing myself to just be with them while at the same time giving myself kindness and grace is all new to me, and mostly learned from listening to your talks and guided meditations. It makes all the difference in the world, of course it does! I’m going to make this a practice, every time I start beating myself up (several times daily) until it becomes habit!
Thank you so very much. Please share this talk / series with MDs, DO’s, PAs, NP’s, PTs, OTs and nurses in the medical world of patient DX, PX, care roles. Brokenness among this group and many of your talks, while reinforcing to those who have these lessons are not being heard from an angry, betrayed-feeling audience like because of what is happening in the medical industry. Their customers, (patients), do not have a chance to heal that brokenness, but maybe you do.
As I was busy washing dishes and planning on practicing my music, etc. I took some time to listen to Tara and I’m grateful because I took a moment to breathe and settle in and that was enough kindness toward myself for this morning. Thanks Tara.
Mindfulness, awareness, what is happening and can I sit with it? I have a new puppy and she takes a lot of my energy and time. I work 3 days a week as a nurse practitioner therapist. I often ask my patients these questions but can I do it myself? Thank you for the reminder.
The default trance of unworthiness is so engrained that, for me, I can quickly return to that default. Just as changing and creating new habits, I strive to change this pattern so I gain a new default. Hearing Tara is helpful and hopeful. I’m grateful. Peace. Lauren
Elizabeth Cap, Another Field, Fort Mill, SC, USAsays
I have learned so much from Tara Brach. Self compassion opened my heart to forgiveness for myself. To understanding I am perfect and worthy of love…just as I am. Warts and all.
I’m not really sure… I didn’t notice anything different. I did feel curiosity, though, about how I could bring kindness to myself in a moment like that.
Mary Haggerty, Clergy, Palatine, Illinois, IL, USAsays
I was surprised that the feeling that came up was fear. I am afraid and have been afraid to acknowledge the fear. Keeping busy, denying it, telling myself I am ridiculous. But my husbands illness has thrown me off. Who are we now? I am afraid of the progression of the disease and I am afraid of where this is going. I am surprised at the moments of relief I felt in simply being honest with myself about what is going on.
I stopped as the music was distracting and annoying. I wish it could be without the music.
Sad to stop but maybe you have a version without the music. thank you.
This talk reinforces what I am reading in Radical Acceptance, and I am learning to like and love myself after a lifetime of feeling unworthy and having to prove myself. As a child I was often compared unfavorably to cousins by my mother, who, I now understand, was not enthusiastically welcomed as number nine of ten after two successive sets of twins. She spent a lifetime trying to find acceptance from her birth family. Tonight I “fell back” with the clocks instead of “springing forward” and had to do it all over again. I still love myself! I am thinking in terms of goofy instead of idiot. I am a retired homemaker and grandmother.
I feel so anxious and depressed. I am dealing with mental health struggles and now have a chronic illness…navigating the 2 simultaneously is overwhelming. It feels like it’s too late in the game to forgive myself and heal. ;(
I began to feel calmer and to know I do matter and the universe is with me. I have been working on loving myself and seeing how amazing I am. Tara, I have listened to your talks for a while now. I truly appreciate your guidance.
In these difficult times for me personally, I’m glad that Tara reminded me to put my hands on my heart, breathe and tell myself that I’m worthy.
Nancy F.
Barbara Correia, Counseling, Half Moon Bay, CA, USAsays
I have been deeply affected by the violence, intolerance, hatred in this country and in the world. Since this administration came to power, I am impatient, outraged, depressed, hopeless. Even common decency is no longer valued. It sickens me when I read, hear, see people celebrating the abuse of their fellow human beings. This is a VERY dark moment we are living through and I often feel angry and incredulous that some people support the lowest of human instincts, attitudes and behavior. I have closed up somewhat, not wanting to be open and vulnerable. Thank you for shining your light
I experienced feeling sad that I have been so hard on myself for so many years. When I practice mindfulness and keep my focus on the present moment I act from my authentic self. When I let my thoughts go to my failures and shame for what I have and have not done in the past, I grieve for the loss of that authentic self and sad about the suffering I have brought on myself.
Amazing. I have felt all those emotions, self doubt, being unloveable, invisible, that inside I’m not the person the world sees on the outside. Forever beating my self up, I’m not good enough, I’m a fake. Feeling like I’m living inside a bubble and i can’t relate to people. I’ve always loved life and I’ve always done what I want, however I was always made to feel badly for that, told I was selfish by my parents. I’m a only child and my mom was a narcissist. UGH! I’m 67 now, Iive alone, have two children. My heart tells me I was not the best parent, tho I have always told them that I love them, just had a bad roll model. Ever since I was a teenager I’ve been interested in Buddhism. I grew up next to Kripalu and it wasn’t until 10 years ago that I started going on retreats!! Thank goodness! It changed my life, as has these talks, mindfulness daily…thank you. I still have fear, anxiety, doubt but now I’m learning how to pause, and ask those 2 questions. What am I feeling and can I live with them. Thank you. Kate
Renee Jones, Another Field, Philadelphia, PA, USAsays
I’m not used to having feelings like this. I’ve always been a pretty confident person. I have studied Buddhism and mindfulness for nearly 20 years. I try to watch appropriate videos and meditate regularly.
But something has happened recently. I’m not sure if it’s being caused by the turmoil in the world and the inhumanity of our government, but a change has happened in my outlook and behavior. I’m inpatient, I blow up at people. I even shouted at a poor homeless person the other day because he was hassling me. I feel I’m not doing enough for other people and protesting injustice.
The Ukraine war is still blazing. In Gaza we were partly responsible for the destruction and deaths of thousands of innocent people. We now have another war that is costing $1.0 billion a day, but there many homeless people sleeping rough in Center City Philadelphia and people are being thrown off their benefits’ lifelines to pay for tax cuts to the rich.
Please know that your talks and advice are incredibly helpful to us to get back on a more compassion path. But all this sadness is so overwhelming. It has forced many of us into a state of feeling helpless.
I loved this. I practice RAIN regularly and I saw elements of the RAIN practice in this video message. It helps me every time. By bringing kindness to my pain and fear, I feel more relaxed inside, gentler, and more accepting and compassionate toward myself (and others). Thank you, Tara. I also wanted to say that your sharing of your personal experience helps make me feel safer in recognizing my own pain.
This was very helpful! Just what we need going into uncertain and violent times. Did any other generation have this type of resource and perspective?
It was so true for me that my inner negative voice did not want to “go along with” cultivating a kind attitude toward what is going on in me today. That part always wants to be stern and critical, pushing for something more or better. I’m looking forward to more wise words and practice to bring out this kindness! Thank you, Tara ♥️
Fear, wall, Resistance to whatever is there, tired
I was able to identify what annoys me which is people who interrupt and demand the center of attention. 🤨😞
I felt fear for my next step in my life.I felt foolish that finally at 43 yr special relationship I couldn’t behave in a way to help it last. I am scared to be alone. It is what I have been told would happen if I didn’t change. Now I’m there and alone.
How we talk to ourselves is so important. And, this video reminded me of my own struggles and my resiliency. Great presentation.
I am finding it easier and easier to love myself each day…… baby steps. Enrolled in the loving compassion course which has truly affected this outcome. I just have such a difficult time with the website but I am finally getting the hang of it……smiles
I had a deep feeling of being stuck. I really struggle to identify my feelings, and I stay busy or check out in order to avoid them. I think I feel ashamed of how I touch with myself I am. I didn’t even like acknowledging that I felt stuck, but I did have a fleeting moment of considering how I could be gentle to myself while I am stuck. If it entertaining the possibility of allowing myself to beat that was new.
As a chronic illness patient with a serious autoimmune disease, it can be tough to be present and allow myself to just feel what comes up in my body–physically and emotionally. I felt a softness and an ease in my breathing and felt an internal sigh of relief–that it was okay for me to just let go and relax. I have followed Tara for many years and have done her R.A.I.N meditations. Thank you, Tara, for reminding me that I deserve self-compassion and peace.
This all makes sense. Moreover, being more discriminant about the people with whom we surround ourselves can help us be more authentic.
Thank you Tara Brach! Allowing and accepting all of my emotions and allowing myself to just be with them while at the same time giving myself kindness and grace is all new to me, and mostly learned from listening to your talks and guided meditations. It makes all the difference in the world, of course it does! I’m going to make this a practice, every time I start beating myself up (several times daily) until it becomes habit!
Thank you so very much. Please share this talk / series with MDs, DO’s, PAs, NP’s, PTs, OTs and nurses in the medical world of patient DX, PX, care roles. Brokenness among this group and many of your talks, while reinforcing to those who have these lessons are not being heard from an angry, betrayed-feeling audience like because of what is happening in the medical industry. Their customers, (patients), do not have a chance to heal that brokenness, but maybe you do.
I love Tara! I appreciate the work she has done over the years, helping us set boundaries and grow!
As I was busy washing dishes and planning on practicing my music, etc. I took some time to listen to Tara and I’m grateful because I took a moment to breathe and settle in and that was enough kindness toward myself for this morning. Thanks Tara.
That made such a difference. Her beautiful calming voice with simple instructions connecting within in a gentle and loving way!
Mindfulness, awareness, what is happening and can I sit with it? I have a new puppy and she takes a lot of my energy and time. I work 3 days a week as a nurse practitioner therapist. I often ask my patients these questions but can I do it myself? Thank you for the reminder.
The default trance of unworthiness is so engrained that, for me, I can quickly return to that default. Just as changing and creating new habits, I strive to change this pattern so I gain a new default. Hearing Tara is helpful and hopeful. I’m grateful. Peace. Lauren
Peace ☮️ thank you!
I have learned so much from Tara Brach. Self compassion opened my heart to forgiveness for myself. To understanding I am perfect and worthy of love…just as I am. Warts and all.
I’m not really sure… I didn’t notice anything different. I did feel curiosity, though, about how I could bring kindness to myself in a moment like that.
I was surprised that the feeling that came up was fear. I am afraid and have been afraid to acknowledge the fear. Keeping busy, denying it, telling myself I am ridiculous. But my husbands illness has thrown me off. Who are we now? I am afraid of the progression of the disease and I am afraid of where this is going. I am surprised at the moments of relief I felt in simply being honest with myself about what is going on.
I’m sending you a virtual hug. Fear is understandable, good person. I’m wishing you both peace.
I felt an immense sense of relief.
I stopped as the music was distracting and annoying. I wish it could be without the music.
Sad to stop but maybe you have a version without the music. thank you.
I really felt a calmness come over me. I’ve been so anxious and depressed but I am hoping this is the beginning of breaking that. Thank you.
This talk reinforces what I am reading in Radical Acceptance, and I am learning to like and love myself after a lifetime of feeling unworthy and having to prove myself. As a child I was often compared unfavorably to cousins by my mother, who, I now understand, was not enthusiastically welcomed as number nine of ten after two successive sets of twins. She spent a lifetime trying to find acceptance from her birth family. Tonight I “fell back” with the clocks instead of “springing forward” and had to do it all over again. I still love myself! I am thinking in terms of goofy instead of idiot. I am a retired homemaker and grandmother.
I feel so anxious and depressed. I am dealing with mental health struggles and now have a chronic illness…navigating the 2 simultaneously is overwhelming. It feels like it’s too late in the game to forgive myself and heal. ;(
I began to feel calmer and to know I do matter and the universe is with me. I have been working on loving myself and seeing how amazing I am. Tara, I have listened to your talks for a while now. I truly appreciate your guidance.
In these difficult times for me personally, I’m glad that Tara reminded me to put my hands on my heart, breathe and tell myself that I’m worthy.
Nancy F.
Bringing kindness brings of feeling of warmth, softening and receptivity.
How can I meet this with kindness? Invoking supreme peace, I will trust in my own goodness to break the trance of unworthiness.
I have been deeply affected by the violence, intolerance, hatred in this country and in the world. Since this administration came to power, I am impatient, outraged, depressed, hopeless. Even common decency is no longer valued. It sickens me when I read, hear, see people celebrating the abuse of their fellow human beings. This is a VERY dark moment we are living through and I often feel angry and incredulous that some people support the lowest of human instincts, attitudes and behavior. I have closed up somewhat, not wanting to be open and vulnerable. Thank you for shining your light
I feel this, as well. <3
I experienced feeling sad that I have been so hard on myself for so many years. When I practice mindfulness and keep my focus on the present moment I act from my authentic self. When I let my thoughts go to my failures and shame for what I have and have not done in the past, I grieve for the loss of that authentic self and sad about the suffering I have brought on myself.
Amazing. I have felt all those emotions, self doubt, being unloveable, invisible, that inside I’m not the person the world sees on the outside. Forever beating my self up, I’m not good enough, I’m a fake. Feeling like I’m living inside a bubble and i can’t relate to people. I’ve always loved life and I’ve always done what I want, however I was always made to feel badly for that, told I was selfish by my parents. I’m a only child and my mom was a narcissist. UGH! I’m 67 now, Iive alone, have two children. My heart tells me I was not the best parent, tho I have always told them that I love them, just had a bad roll model. Ever since I was a teenager I’ve been interested in Buddhism. I grew up next to Kripalu and it wasn’t until 10 years ago that I started going on retreats!! Thank goodness! It changed my life, as has these talks, mindfulness daily…thank you. I still have fear, anxiety, doubt but now I’m learning how to pause, and ask those 2 questions. What am I feeling and can I live with them. Thank you. Kate
I’m not used to having feelings like this. I’ve always been a pretty confident person. I have studied Buddhism and mindfulness for nearly 20 years. I try to watch appropriate videos and meditate regularly.
But something has happened recently. I’m not sure if it’s being caused by the turmoil in the world and the inhumanity of our government, but a change has happened in my outlook and behavior. I’m inpatient, I blow up at people. I even shouted at a poor homeless person the other day because he was hassling me. I feel I’m not doing enough for other people and protesting injustice.
The Ukraine war is still blazing. In Gaza we were partly responsible for the destruction and deaths of thousands of innocent people. We now have another war that is costing $1.0 billion a day, but there many homeless people sleeping rough in Center City Philadelphia and people are being thrown off their benefits’ lifelines to pay for tax cuts to the rich.
Please know that your talks and advice are incredibly helpful to us to get back on a more compassion path. But all this sadness is so overwhelming. It has forced many of us into a state of feeling helpless.
Thank you Tara for all you do.
With gratitude………Renee Jones
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renee@scggroup1.com
I loved this. I practice RAIN regularly and I saw elements of the RAIN practice in this video message. It helps me every time. By bringing kindness to my pain and fear, I feel more relaxed inside, gentler, and more accepting and compassionate toward myself (and others). Thank you, Tara. I also wanted to say that your sharing of your personal experience helps make me feel safer in recognizing my own pain.