This information will be so useful in working with my clients. Questions seem simple, but have the ability to reach deeper into the true source of the client’s discomfort.
I would be at peace and much more present in the moment if I did not believe something is wrong with me. I would have clarity and confidence in my decisions.
I would be my true self that has been gifted with compassion and empathy hoping to help others.
I have been in and out of fear my whole life and aging has brought that all back stronger than ever.
Alain S, Stress Management, San Diego, CA, USAsays
This is my motto:
Fear is not my friend. I am fallible and every mistake is another opportunity to learn and grow. Moving through my mistakes keep me in the learning curve. Onward!!
I would be more confident and self-assured. My GAD might disappear because it comes from the abandonment of my mother emotionally. Great question I will be asking it of myself a lot and then my clients. Thanks <3
Tammie Morley, Social Work, Ballston Lake, NY, USAsays
Without fear, I would like to think I would be a more confident, less anxious person. However, I think fear and the experiences I have had with fear has helped me to be resilient, to be proud of my accomplishments even in the face of fear, and to know I can conquer fear. That being said, fear is a hard emotion to process and to handle.
I would be someone who did not spend any energy living in the past as much. I would not live with guilt regarding my past “mistakes” . I would have much more energy to enjoy my present.
This question „Who would I be without fear?“ is so powerful – it allouds me to immagine me with the fearless heart – I can think of me as a person with selfconfidence and the power to do the best that I can do …. And beginning to immagine this it changes my feelings and emotions in this moment .
Thank you !
I find this very helpful because it’s so clear.
Easy to understand it inspires me to use these tools on myself. I’m not a practitioner. Thank you dear Tara!!
What a transformative question to ask myself and to ask my clients. I am aware that the thought of even asking this question causes me some anxiety. But it has given me a way to begin to move towards my hearts desire which is to live wholly with love. Thank you.
I thought that was beautiful Love the incisiveness of the question, with the opportunity to dream into more of what you want to be. The reality check is so useful, to interrupt the script that persists so insidiously. Thank you.
I would be lighter, more playful, have greater enjoyment of my life. I’d probably be as least somewhat successful in the things I’ve been too afraid to try, and if they turned out to be a flop, I would say, “oh well” and move on to the next thing. Life would be wildly different.
who would I be is uncertain, however it sure would be worth allowing myself to live a life of love. I appreciate what others wrote, they were able to express my chaotic thoughts in a beautiful thoughtful way, thank you.
Katherine McKendall-Bennett, Coach, New paltz , NY, USAsays
I love the simplicity and straightforwardness of the two take-aways…”real but not true” and “who would you/I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me” I think in some cases ill substitute,”if I didn’t believe I was lesser or in worthy “
Without feelings of being evil and wrong – being an out law I would be expressing myself in the world to a much higher degree, less pleasing and more present in relations.
This series is invaluable to all of us. Since we all face this common problem of self-doubt caused by fear, these wise, rather simple ways of lessening the discomfort can benefit everyone, regardless of where they are on the path to a more centered, positive life experience, or just beginning to waken to the possibilities!
I can’t think of a more powerful question to ask myself!
If there was nothing wrong with me- wow!
If making a mistake was ok?
If knowing I’m ok just as I am- no judgement.
If I was sure I could handle whatever came my way?
If I could find a way to live with my vulnerability and insecurities- let them exist alongside a burgeoning sense of who I am and that what I want to contribute to the world was valuable and purposeful.
Wow! Thank you Tara. I felt the window open! Fresh air! Deep breath. I could almost fly!
Thanks you for these talks. If I had a fearless heart I would not hesitate to do new things. I would not worry about failing, not worry about what others thought, and stop trying to be perfect. Life would and me would be happier and lighter.
If I was free from fear I would whole heartedly believe in the power of the unknown. I would make bolder choices and not be ridden with guilt from past mistakes and proud of the mother I am 💖
I have found all of the presentations helpful to me personally and professionally. Living in a small society with a population of less than four thousand is not easy because there is the lingering feeling of being constantly judged. These sessions help me to notice that I need to be intentionally reflective my thoughts, feelings and reactions. The other thing is the fact of living with an erupting volcano for nearly thirty years. So much is uncertain.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight. You are my favourite person to listen to. You make sense and your teachings are relatable to everyone. Thank you
My mind does somersaults at the possibility of living without fear and when I remind myself of the choice point to breathe into those tightened spots a whole other world seems to unfold, a lovely reminder how this simple practice can ease the more challenging parts of what it is to be human….grateful for your time Tara….
I would be light and better regulated throughout the day. Once the need or want for external validation or to compare oneself to others has fallen away there is more room for self love to blossom.
I would be light, carefree, joyful. It would be so freeing to be rid of the weight of self doubt and the belief that i don’t truly deserve to have it all.
I do a lot of “real but not true” ruminating. If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I’d be confident, creative, strong, and more loving. I wouldn’t question my value to and for others.
Inspirational sessions! Thank you. Without fear? Free to express the playful parts of myself, free to express thoughts and emotions, free of the fear of rejection.
This information will be so useful in working with my clients. Questions seem simple, but have the ability to reach deeper into the true source of the client’s discomfort.
Thank you! So very helpful.
I would be my true, authentic self, invincible and totally free.
I would be at peace and much more present in the moment if I did not believe something is wrong with me. I would have clarity and confidence in my decisions.
I would be FREE!
I would be my true self that has been gifted with compassion and empathy hoping to help others.
I have been in and out of fear my whole life and aging has brought that all back stronger than ever.
I would be BOLD!
This is my motto:
Fear is not my friend. I am fallible and every mistake is another opportunity to learn and grow. Moving through my mistakes keep me in the learning curve. Onward!!
I would be free without fear. I need to learn to be more free with fear which is a part of human nature.
I would be one who is enjoying professional work, writing, personally happy, blessed and loved.
I would be more confident and self-assured. My GAD might disappear because it comes from the abandonment of my mother emotionally. Great question I will be asking it of myself a lot and then my clients. Thanks <3
I’d be living in true essence with spirit and service to my community. I’d have a lot more love.
I would be a carefree happier more confident being
Free
Without fear, I would like to think I would be a more confident, less anxious person. However, I think fear and the experiences I have had with fear has helped me to be resilient, to be proud of my accomplishments even in the face of fear, and to know I can conquer fear. That being said, fear is a hard emotion to process and to handle.
I would be someone who did not spend any energy living in the past as much. I would not live with guilt regarding my past “mistakes” . I would have much more energy to enjoy my present.
This question „Who would I be without fear?“ is so powerful – it allouds me to immagine me with the fearless heart – I can think of me as a person with selfconfidence and the power to do the best that I can do …. And beginning to immagine this it changes my feelings and emotions in this moment .
Thank you !
I would be more loving and accepting of my aging body. Allow my body to feel my loving heart presence
I find this very helpful because it’s so clear.
Easy to understand it inspires me to use these tools on myself. I’m not a practitioner. Thank you dear Tara!!
Who would I be … a more confident, positive, healthy being!
What a transformative question to ask myself and to ask my clients. I am aware that the thought of even asking this question causes me some anxiety. But it has given me a way to begin to move towards my hearts desire which is to live wholly with love. Thank you.
I thought that was beautiful Love the incisiveness of the question, with the opportunity to dream into more of what you want to be. The reality check is so useful, to interrupt the script that persists so insidiously. Thank you.
Very helpful!
I would be lighter, more playful, have greater enjoyment of my life. I’d probably be as least somewhat successful in the things I’ve been too afraid to try, and if they turned out to be a flop, I would say, “oh well” and move on to the next thing. Life would be wildly different.
who would I be is uncertain, however it sure would be worth allowing myself to live a life of love. I appreciate what others wrote, they were able to express my chaotic thoughts in a beautiful thoughtful way, thank you.
I love the simplicity and straightforwardness of the two take-aways…”real but not true” and “who would you/I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me” I think in some cases ill substitute,”if I didn’t believe I was lesser or in worthy “
thank you for this!
Without fear I would be more open to accepting myself and others
Without feelings of being evil and wrong – being an out law I would be expressing myself in the world to a much higher degree, less pleasing and more present in relations.
This series is invaluable to all of us. Since we all face this common problem of self-doubt caused by fear, these wise, rather simple ways of lessening the discomfort can benefit everyone, regardless of where they are on the path to a more centered, positive life experience, or just beginning to waken to the possibilities!
I can’t think of a more powerful question to ask myself!
If there was nothing wrong with me- wow!
If making a mistake was ok?
If knowing I’m ok just as I am- no judgement.
If I was sure I could handle whatever came my way?
If I could find a way to live with my vulnerability and insecurities- let them exist alongside a burgeoning sense of who I am and that what I want to contribute to the world was valuable and purposeful.
Wow! Thank you Tara. I felt the window open! Fresh air! Deep breath. I could almost fly!
Thanks you for these talks. If I had a fearless heart I would not hesitate to do new things. I would not worry about failing, not worry about what others thought, and stop trying to be perfect. Life would and me would be happier and lighter.
If I was free from fear I would whole heartedly believe in the power of the unknown. I would make bolder choices and not be ridden with guilt from past mistakes and proud of the mother I am 💖
I would find peace among the chaos. So grateful for you, Tara.
with out fear and anxiety maybe i could be happy and confident. I’d like to get there one day. However therapy is expensive and takes time.
I have found all of the presentations helpful to me personally and professionally. Living in a small society with a population of less than four thousand is not easy because there is the lingering feeling of being constantly judged. These sessions help me to notice that I need to be intentionally reflective my thoughts, feelings and reactions. The other thing is the fact of living with an erupting volcano for nearly thirty years. So much is uncertain.
I’m not sure what I’d be without fear …. but probably much happier and would walk with grace and serenity.
I’m not a therapist and am not sure how I got included on the nicabm thread
I would.be more joyful, and I would enjoy my family more. I would be lighter and happier, maybe more similar to the person I was in my twenties 😊
Thank you for your words! Having a Fearless Heart would be so freeing!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight. You are my favourite person to listen to. You make sense and your teachings are relatable to everyone. Thank you
My mind does somersaults at the possibility of living without fear and when I remind myself of the choice point to breathe into those tightened spots a whole other world seems to unfold, a lovely reminder how this simple practice can ease the more challenging parts of what it is to be human….grateful for your time Tara….
I would be more relaxed and able to enjoy life’s moments and connect with others from a more confident and present place
Without fear, I would simply be at peace, which is a feeling I don’t think I’ve ever experienced in my entire life.
I would be consistently, reliably calm and available to give and receive love.
I would be light and better regulated throughout the day. Once the need or want for external validation or to compare oneself to others has fallen away there is more room for self love to blossom.
I would be light, carefree, joyful. It would be so freeing to be rid of the weight of self doubt and the belief that i don’t truly deserve to have it all.
I would be a confident and optimistic person, believing in my worth all the time, without the need for external validation.
It would be such a relief to feel free of that constant tension and pressure. I can imagine many facets of my life to different .
Hi, to answer the question: I’d be more open and myself, pursuing my path. Thank you for this series!
I would be my true authentic self, feel comfortable being me, being seen and be able to share my gifts and more of myself with the world.
Free. Light and more compassionate to myself and others.
I do a lot of “real but not true” ruminating. If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I’d be confident, creative, strong, and more loving. I wouldn’t question my value to and for others.
I would be more joyful
I fear for the world. Without the fear would there be hope?
Inspirational sessions! Thank you. Without fear? Free to express the playful parts of myself, free to express thoughts and emotions, free of the fear of rejection.