I enjoyed this 3 part series and found it valuable, especially as a reminder of our common human struggles. Looking forward to hearing more about the upcoming online series
I really enjoyed the construction of the simple questions that breaks out of a the default of what the brain is telling us. “Real, but not true and Who would you be if you didn’t believe these things about yourself.” Insightful and powerful. Thank you.
I would just be locking at the world with loving, curious eyes, exploring life with trust while feeling safe and lovable, taking life as an adventure and expension of consciousness. Trusting myself because I would be able to believe, that, whatever happens, I will be able coming home again, which to me means: even if I fail, I am loved and able to love myself unconditionally.
I would be free to become my authentic self, be able to connect with others on a deeper level and bring more joy into the world. Thank you for your clear, helpful talk.
Who would i be…… i would be more productive. I would work less and play more. I would follow my bliss more often than I do now. I would be more compassionate.
I am working within client who is full of fear, self doubt and anxiety right now. Thank you for these videos. I love the ‘real but not true’ idea and also will definitely use the question ‘who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?’ once she has been resourced enough to cope with her childhood traumas. I am using a form of mindful awareness to get her in touch with her body and she is already finding the benefits of this. Very helpful videos!
Thank you so much for sharing this I have found it very helpful short but very informative. I shall certainly be using these tools in my practice to help my clients especially the 3 steps. Thank you Cherie
A happier, calmer andmore spontaneous person who enjoys her own company and that of others. More risk-taking, going with the flow, more trusting. More energetic and experiencing less physical and emotional pain.
Tara as always on point and presented with that calm reassuring voice that models a fearless heart. I was reminded by your patients demon story of mine and how one of my Shaman friends guided me to the confrontation. What a revelation at age 65. N.
Without fear I would be more compassionate and more energized. This guide has made me more aware if the vulnerability that everyone has and I will practice real but not true—knowing I can face my fears—and that it’s an ongoing practice.
Tara, Thank you for your generous and heart warming sharing. It has been of great benefit to me and I will share it with others and especially my wife ( my Anam Cara) who will share it with her many Groups
Peter C
I don’t understand why it is necessary to identify myself and my location to participate in this practice. I prefer to remain anonymous. Please do not identify the source of my comments in such a public forum. Thank you.
Unstoppable! Feel like i’m In a prison unable to let go of anything. Would be courageous without fear!
Have had some severe trauma over the last few years, has changed me. Really don’t feel that I can trust anyone with my story.without fear, I would be more open and living, less isolated.
Thank you the clear way you present & what you present has been very helpful….i often find i feel frozen in fear so having a simplified & clear technique to dissolve & heal these is very helpful
Without fear, I believe I would have tapped into my powerful creative(artistic) core in ny 20s. I would have had the courage to begin
the process of building a career in eriting, photography and film.
At that time, while struggling with depression, I pursued an academic path,
(creative but not artistic) and deeply buried
my artist self. I believed in my intellect. It was a safe haven. I attained 4 university degrees, and began a a PhD.
In my late 40s, I broke through my fear, took some art classes. Eventually, I
completed art college earning a BFA and MFA. Still one foot in the academic world.
I have pursued work in installation art, photography and writing.
The fears persist and progress is slow.
I am now 70.
I want to pursue and complete several projects over the next 5-10 years
1) the book I am working on,
2) a related photo project;
3) gather the resources to produce a film based on a book which fired my imagination 10 years ago. Continues to excite me.
Ambitious projects which require less fear and considerable energy and courage.
Thank you very much for listening. This exercise helped me articulate my plan.
Carolyn
What a wonderful question that I have asked of others but not of myself! My fear has been exactly the same as the woman in the video…fear of participating wholly in a romantic relationship due to past pain and distrusting a partner who I rationally know loves me but who I fear will find someone better. Who would I be without fear…..I would be a person who fully loves and is able to give love 100%.
Who would I be without fear? Someone able to go forward wth social situations, without allowing doubt and fear about my abilities to connect to limit my participation. Someone who could deal with medical cancer treatments and other physical treatments in a thinking rather than emotional manner, always fearing visits with doctors and preparing for the worst outcomes. Someone who could apply the mindfulness activities to my daily living and learn to love what is here instead of focusing on what I fear.
Thank you.
I really appreciated, and will use almost immediately in my practice, the following:
“real but not true”
“who would you be if you didn’t believe that something was wrong with you”
I can already envision numerous clients for whom these statements will be very meaningful and powerful.
Jackie
These were wonderful! I personally have come a long way in the past four years, tackling chronic anxiety. For me, some of it related to chronic illness and I was able to reverse the physical aspects with a Paleo diet. But then I discovered neuroplasticity and about 15 months ago, started researching and practicing mindfulness and meditation. I have an acute awareness of my fears and vulnerabilities.
Thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom. It is truly appreciated. It’s people like you who continue to encourage my healing and recovery from chronic illness and shame and guilt.
I would be able to access my full brain and full heart creativity and intellgience. I would be much more connected to Wisdom, Knowledge and Beauty available to All. I «could get out of my own way» and hear the Music of the Spheres…
‘Real but not true’ seems so simple – can’t wait to try it with my clients and I’ll do it too. Unlocking the freedom of the fearless heart, I expect takes practice and then more practice though.
Thank you Mrs Tarabrach, I faced this trauma a two decades back.It was my beloved wife she was suffering with fear and anxiety.It was a tiring and exhausting experience to convince and make her understand the reality of imagining a horrific figure frequently comes in front of her .She never had a good sleep and rest for many many months.Finally I sought the help of a psychologist to treat and cure her from fear psychosis.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me? I’d be busy completing my fourth book – instead of stuck in writer’s block. Thank you so much Tara – for your wisdom and your open, friendly heart.
Wonderful start to letting go of my fear and anxiety. Who would I be without that? I would be easier on myself and others, I would have a joyous heart and with that, anything is possible.
Freer and more able to connect with others. I would hike and dance more, and be the mother and friend I want to be.
The practice of self-compassion as part of an approach healing fear is powerful.
Thank you Tara. It’s very helpful to recognize that we are not alone in these feelings of fear. That in itself helps lessen them.
A more confident,likable,understanding person
What a simple but powerful question to ask ourselves and our cluents. Thank you!
More liberated to feel
I would be free, Unattached, full of compassion. Thank you
I enjoyed this 3 part series and found it valuable, especially as a reminder of our common human struggles. Looking forward to hearing more about the upcoming online series
I really enjoyed the construction of the simple questions that breaks out of a the default of what the brain is telling us. “Real, but not true and Who would you be if you didn’t believe these things about yourself.” Insightful and powerful. Thank you.
I would be a foster mom.
I would just be locking at the world with loving, curious eyes, exploring life with trust while feeling safe and lovable, taking life as an adventure and expension of consciousness. Trusting myself because I would be able to believe, that, whatever happens, I will be able coming home again, which to me means: even if I fail, I am loved and able to love myself unconditionally.
Feel free to explore my relationship
I would be free to become my authentic self, be able to connect with others on a deeper level and bring more joy into the world. Thank you for your clear, helpful talk.
Would this be helpful for someone who is paranoid schizophrenic? Thank you.
Who would i be…… i would be more productive. I would work less and play more. I would follow my bliss more often than I do now. I would be more compassionate.
Awesome!
I work in dance and these practices and so very helpful. Thank you
I am working within client who is full of fear, self doubt and anxiety right now. Thank you for these videos. I love the ‘real but not true’ idea and also will definitely use the question ‘who would you be if you didn’t believe something was wrong with you?’ once she has been resourced enough to cope with her childhood traumas. I am using a form of mindful awareness to get her in touch with her body and she is already finding the benefits of this. Very helpful videos!
Thank you so much for sharing this I have found it very helpful short but very informative. I shall certainly be using these tools in my practice to help my clients especially the 3 steps. Thank you Cherie
A happier, calmer andmore spontaneous person who enjoys her own company and that of others. More risk-taking, going with the flow, more trusting. More energetic and experiencing less physical and emotional pain.
a peaceful warrior
i would be a sweeetie pie
Tara as always on point and presented with that calm reassuring voice that models a fearless heart. I was reminded by your patients demon story of mine and how one of my Shaman friends guided me to the confrontation. What a revelation at age 65. N.
I would be free, lighter, content, living with ease, eating well with no food addiction or disability.
I would stop running away from relationships and start to trust that the things I desire are available to me
Without fear I would be more compassionate and more energized. This guide has made me more aware if the vulnerability that everyone has and I will practice real but not true—knowing I can face my fears—and that it’s an ongoing practice.
Thank you, Tara. I always find this question so liberating, and I appreciate the gift of the “real but not true.”
Tara, Thank you for your generous and heart warming sharing. It has been of great benefit to me and I will share it with others and especially my wife ( my Anam Cara) who will share it with her many Groups
Peter C
Thank you, Tara Brach, for your clear and thoughtful teachings about mindfulness.
I don’t understand why it is necessary to identify myself and my location to participate in this practice. I prefer to remain anonymous. Please do not identify the source of my comments in such a public forum. Thank you.
Great talk. Makes me think of ways I have self doubt and I would a much stronger woman without this.
Karin
Unstoppable! Feel like i’m In a prison unable to let go of anything. Would be courageous without fear!
Have had some severe trauma over the last few years, has changed me. Really don’t feel that I can trust anyone with my story.without fear, I would be more open and living, less isolated.
Thanks for the sharing. 🙂 I think I would be someone, who is more free-spirited and more joyful
Thank you the clear way you present & what you present has been very helpful….i often find i feel frozen in fear so having a simplified & clear technique to dissolve & heal these is very helpful
Without fear, I believe I would have tapped into my powerful creative(artistic) core in ny 20s. I would have had the courage to begin
the process of building a career in eriting, photography and film.
At that time, while struggling with depression, I pursued an academic path,
(creative but not artistic) and deeply buried
my artist self. I believed in my intellect. It was a safe haven. I attained 4 university degrees, and began a a PhD.
In my late 40s, I broke through my fear, took some art classes. Eventually, I
completed art college earning a BFA and MFA. Still one foot in the academic world.
I have pursued work in installation art, photography and writing.
The fears persist and progress is slow.
I am now 70.
I want to pursue and complete several projects over the next 5-10 years
1) the book I am working on,
2) a related photo project;
3) gather the resources to produce a film based on a book which fired my imagination 10 years ago. Continues to excite me.
Ambitious projects which require less fear and considerable energy and courage.
Thank you very much for listening. This exercise helped me articulate my plan.
Carolyn
What a wonderful question that I have asked of others but not of myself! My fear has been exactly the same as the woman in the video…fear of participating wholly in a romantic relationship due to past pain and distrusting a partner who I rationally know loves me but who I fear will find someone better. Who would I be without fear…..I would be a person who fully loves and is able to give love 100%.
Who would I be without fear? Someone able to go forward wth social situations, without allowing doubt and fear about my abilities to connect to limit my participation. Someone who could deal with medical cancer treatments and other physical treatments in a thinking rather than emotional manner, always fearing visits with doctors and preparing for the worst outcomes. Someone who could apply the mindfulness activities to my daily living and learn to love what is here instead of focusing on what I fear.
Without fear, I would be more in love with life.
Thank you.
I really appreciated, and will use almost immediately in my practice, the following:
“real but not true”
“who would you be if you didn’t believe that something was wrong with you”
I can already envision numerous clients for whom these statements will be very meaningful and powerful.
Jackie
These were wonderful! I personally have come a long way in the past four years, tackling chronic anxiety. For me, some of it related to chronic illness and I was able to reverse the physical aspects with a Paleo diet. But then I discovered neuroplasticity and about 15 months ago, started researching and practicing mindfulness and meditation. I have an acute awareness of my fears and vulnerabilities.
Thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom. It is truly appreciated. It’s people like you who continue to encourage my healing and recovery from chronic illness and shame and guilt.
I would be able to access my full brain and full heart creativity and intellgience. I would be much more connected to Wisdom, Knowledge and Beauty available to All. I «could get out of my own way» and hear the Music of the Spheres…
‘Real but not true’ seems so simple – can’t wait to try it with my clients and I’ll do it too. Unlocking the freedom of the fearless heart, I expect takes practice and then more practice though.
Thank-you Tara.
Thank you Mrs Tarabrach, I faced this trauma a two decades back.It was my beloved wife she was suffering with fear and anxiety.It was a tiring and exhausting experience to convince and make her understand the reality of imagining a horrific figure frequently comes in front of her .She never had a good sleep and rest for many many months.Finally I sought the help of a psychologist to treat and cure her from fear psychosis.
I appreciate the back ground presented on mind body looping.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me? I’d be busy completing my fourth book – instead of stuck in writer’s block. Thank you so much Tara – for your wisdom and your open, friendly heart.
Wonderful start to letting go of my fear and anxiety. Who would I be without that? I would be easier on myself and others, I would have a joyous heart and with that, anything is possible.
Very useful and applicable. Thank you
Excellent question. I will ponder. Thank you.
Very insightful ‘who would you be without the fear’ is a great statement
Thanks