very much appreciate you sharing this Tara.
In one setting where we work with a small community housing group, (where trauma is present and easily triggered) we face many forms of fear. It is not a therapeutic setting, however, the group cannot meet its challenges effectively when fear is dominating the exchanges. Open-heartedness sees so much trauma – and needs to be well resourced and well balanced to sustain connection.
I would be someone who willingly put their ideas into action in an enthusiastic way, with an open-hearted curiosity to see how it would turn out, rather than list all of the reasons why the idea won’t work.
I would be a person who would connect much easier to others, I would be more open in trusting the process of connection, I would be more open to sharing my future endeavors and bloom much more quicker.
Catherine Lewan, Physical Therapy, chicago, IL, USAsays
Interesting question– works well for “real but not true.” I’d guess that fears become conditioned when one or more fear has been real and true in the past– those true emergencies when fear is a very important motivator to take immediate and emergent action. Important that we can step back to determine the difference.
Without fear I would feel more at ease, courageous and happy. My heart would feel more open and generous. I guess I would be able to work with more self confidence, creativity and joy, feel accepted or even loved and get in contact with other people more easily. I wonder how the world would look like if all people managed to live without fear.
Tara, your voice and presence are remarkably soothing. I felt an incredible sense of calm after listening to Parts 1 through Parts 3, and reflecting upon them as they applied to me. In addition, I utilized parts of them with my first client today and the steps worked beautifully. Indeed, it brings a smile to my face now as I write these words. Thank you for your wonderful work. I look forward to more teachings and support.
Who would I be if I didn’t think there was something wrong with me? I would be more fearless. I would have more self worth. I wouldn’t doubt myself, instead I would trust myself. I wouldn’t be afraid to set the boundaries that I know should be there, because I wouldn’t be afraid that I would be abandoned or unloved if I gave up people pleasing 💜
who would I be if I didn’t think something was wrong with me..a gentle kind soul, seeing the good in the world, connecting with others easily and able to replenish when ever I needed!
Margaret Mack, Psychology, Westhampton, NY, USAsays
I loved the story of the little boy’s recurrent dream and how facing the feared object diminished its power over him. Also, it is so important to ask the right questions to help generate more life affirming responses. Thanks.
who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me
I would be running my own meditation center, all my life i never believed in myself
always feeling i could have done better I just didn’t try, or work hard enough.
If I ask myself is this true ? honestly I did my best I compare myself to others and that frightens me.
I would not be running away and constantly fixing myself. Instead I would stand up for my true beliefs and values. I would be a caring father, partner and would be more solid, dependable, reliable & gentle.
This is only an intro to the actual information that would be useful? Unfortunately I do not have the funds to pay for the 6 week online program. I do appreciate everyone who is doing the work to lead others into healing and inner peace.
I just read Beyond Fear by Don Miguel Ruiz and intend to further my studies, healing, practices and growth where I can.
Thank you for the snipits of information. I just joined your Facebook group today and am intrigued by the teachings and heartfelt words Ive seen of yours, posted by others. It all led me here.
Each day, is a day to be brave! Grab hold of the reins and be courageous. As my inner child heals, I find a new strength, new perspectives & insights and inch by inch, step by step —inner peace.
Grief and trauma have played a huge role in my 47 years of life. Its never too late to overcome fear, heal from trauma and learn to grow around grief.
I don’t know…I have been trapped from as long as long as I can remember. I have severe anxiety. I always feel like something is waiting and watching. I feel like I have destroyed my childrens life and my own. I look at all the children who are ill or dying and I dont understand why the are dying and I am still here. I feel i am just a wasted life. A throwaway. So i don’t know.
I think I would feel more freedom, more peace and more availability to interface openly with life. My world would become less constricted, more expansive.
I think I would feel more freedom, more peace and more availability to interface openly with life. My world would become less constricted, more expansive.
Levana Cohen, Teacher, Port Washington, NY, USAsays
I’m honestly not sure…I use fear as a motivator in my life and it comes with a whole host of side effects. The antidote to fear is mindfulness and present thinking. This is my life work.
roberta auslander, Psychotherapy, Highland Park, IL, USAsays
It’s an interesting question-who would we be without fear? I think I would be someone who more fully embrace life. It would override my fear of being abandoned so I could more fully experience being loved-even from my children.
Oh goodness! I would be a free bird happy to sing her song without thinking twice about how that might look or sound to others. I would be creating and offering so much more because I wouldn’t have that space taken up inside fearing I’m not enough. I’d probably feel like a flower child appears – joyful, expressive and full of ease.
very much appreciate you sharing this Tara.
In one setting where we work with a small community housing group, (where trauma is present and easily triggered) we face many forms of fear. It is not a therapeutic setting, however, the group cannot meet its challenges effectively when fear is dominating the exchanges. Open-heartedness sees so much trauma – and needs to be well resourced and well balanced to sustain connection.
I would be someone who willingly put their ideas into action in an enthusiastic way, with an open-hearted curiosity to see how it would turn out, rather than list all of the reasons why the idea won’t work.
I would be a person who would connect much easier to others, I would be more open in trusting the process of connection, I would be more open to sharing my future endeavors and bloom much more quicker.
Interesting question– works well for “real but not true.” I’d guess that fears become conditioned when one or more fear has been real and true in the past– those true emergencies when fear is a very important motivator to take immediate and emergent action. Important that we can step back to determine the difference.
Without fear I would feel more at ease, courageous and happy. My heart would feel more open and generous. I guess I would be able to work with more self confidence, creativity and joy, feel accepted or even loved and get in contact with other people more easily. I wonder how the world would look like if all people managed to live without fear.
I’d be able to connect with non toxic people. I’d write and create with deep understanding and love.
More connected to my body
An unstoppable woman that speaks truth into difficult situations.
Tara, your voice and presence are remarkably soothing. I felt an incredible sense of calm after listening to Parts 1 through Parts 3, and reflecting upon them as they applied to me. In addition, I utilized parts of them with my first client today and the steps worked beautifully. Indeed, it brings a smile to my face now as I write these words. Thank you for your wonderful work. I look forward to more teachings and support.
A confident woman who emphatically lived with unconditional passion, fervor, and reckless abandon!
Peacefully in the present and trusting life
I love this question and share it with students. They grapple with whether it’s reasonable and possible. Feels like unconditional self-regard.
Who would I be if I didn’t think there was something wrong with me? I would be more fearless. I would have more self worth. I wouldn’t doubt myself, instead I would trust myself. I wouldn’t be afraid to set the boundaries that I know should be there, because I wouldn’t be afraid that I would be abandoned or unloved if I gave up people pleasing 💜
More able to live in the present moment.
At peace with myself.
I would be softer and happier.
A lighter vehicle for change. 🦋
Free as a bird
Exuberant.
Would be truly connected to myself. Happier, communicative.
I would be floating above everything – I would be free
I would be free to let my creativity and feminine power soar.
Happier
Freer. More open and loving. More fun.
I would be unstoppable and truly interconnected. Free. And one with the universe.
I would be at home in the world — a source of strength and refuge — to myself and others.
I would be truly me, fully present in the moment without expectations of unpleasant situations.
I would have more confidence and be more outgoing. I would tackle my dream of becoming a real estate agent.
I would be a happier, more relaxed person, more engaged in community with other people in various ways and social environments.
who would I be if I didn’t think something was wrong with me..a gentle kind soul, seeing the good in the world, connecting with others easily and able to replenish when ever I needed!
I loved the story of the little boy’s recurrent dream and how facing the feared object diminished its power over him. Also, it is so important to ask the right questions to help generate more life affirming responses. Thanks.
I would be free from a gripping trance of unworthiness and be able to let go of my self doubt
I would be able to accept myself just as I am.
who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me
I would be running my own meditation center, all my life i never believed in myself
always feeling i could have done better I just didn’t try, or work hard enough.
If I ask myself is this true ? honestly I did my best I compare myself to others and that frightens me.
Thank you for these videos. I am sharing them with clients and feel they will be very helpful.
I would be more able to help the people with whom I engage to unfold themselves as well.
I would not be running away and constantly fixing myself. Instead I would stand up for my true beliefs and values. I would be a caring father, partner and would be more solid, dependable, reliable & gentle.
The same as I am now, but with more confidence in myself. ~Diana
I would be a well-known photographer.
I would have more courage and be more open.
This is only an intro to the actual information that would be useful? Unfortunately I do not have the funds to pay for the 6 week online program. I do appreciate everyone who is doing the work to lead others into healing and inner peace.
I just read Beyond Fear by Don Miguel Ruiz and intend to further my studies, healing, practices and growth where I can.
Thank you for the snipits of information. I just joined your Facebook group today and am intrigued by the teachings and heartfelt words Ive seen of yours, posted by others. It all led me here.
Each day, is a day to be brave! Grab hold of the reins and be courageous. As my inner child heals, I find a new strength, new perspectives & insights and inch by inch, step by step —inner peace.
Grief and trauma have played a huge role in my 47 years of life. Its never too late to overcome fear, heal from trauma and learn to grow around grief.
Much Love,
Lisa
I don’t know…I have been trapped from as long as long as I can remember. I have severe anxiety. I always feel like something is waiting and watching. I feel like I have destroyed my childrens life and my own. I look at all the children who are ill or dying and I dont understand why the are dying and I am still here. I feel i am just a wasted life. A throwaway. So i don’t know.
I think I would feel more freedom, more peace and more availability to interface openly with life. My world would become less constricted, more expansive.
I think I would feel more freedom, more peace and more availability to interface openly with life. My world would become less constricted, more expansive.
I’m honestly not sure…I use fear as a motivator in my life and it comes with a whole host of side effects. The antidote to fear is mindfulness and present thinking. This is my life work.
I would live in the moment and be open to more joy.
It’s an interesting question-who would we be without fear? I think I would be someone who more fully embrace life. It would override my fear of being abandoned so I could more fully experience being loved-even from my children.
Oh goodness! I would be a free bird happy to sing her song without thinking twice about how that might look or sound to others. I would be creating and offering so much more because I wouldn’t have that space taken up inside fearing I’m not enough. I’d probably feel like a flower child appears – joyful, expressive and full of ease.
I don’t know, what am I supposed to be.
I would be truly me, fully present, in the moment without unpleasant sensations.
Ayesha