I would have a lighter heart, I would be more relaxed about facing challenging tasks, I would enjoy spending time alone more, and I would be more optimistic and less anxious about finding and developing a new partner relationship.
I love this question, who would I be without fear. I think I would be happier, more connected to others and having fulfilled many of the dreams that I felt I was not good enough to pursue. Thank you for this video series. I look forward to staying connected to your teaching and learning more.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. The suffering of being stuck in a trance is very real and your simple reminder of ‘real but not true’ is a wonderful awakening moment to use.
Who I would be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, why I would be
ME! ME, the me who usually experiences Calm and peace, joy, gratitude, compassion, willingness to help others, light-heartedness, humor, and other
authentic pieces of my being. Ah, if only fear and self doubt would decrease!!!
Thank you Tara for the exquisite way you illuminate the cape of the fearless heart.
Your work is so very enlightening to the dark places many people find themselves. I work with clients all the time that struggle with this and I myself, as a therapist, still battle with remnants of it that I grew up with and have spent much of my life battling.
Who would I be without fear? Free to truly be me and at ease to stretch into my optimal self with confidence and grace 🙂
Thank you so much
I would be more care free and would be able to enjoy the moment more. I would be more outgoing, try more new things and be more confident. I would live a fuller life and be able to do more with my kids.
I would be happier, fun loving, a better friend, have more fulfilling relationships, have the energy to exercise more frequently, probably be more creative and a more accomplished artist since I would spend more time practicing my art rather than just thinking about it and being drained by my fear. Tara, thank you for the question.
I would be, fun spirited and free. Laughing and singing like a child. I would travel more and engage in more social activities. A strong adventurous woman with never ending confidence.
Will these videos be available another day? I am having difficulties having a consistent connection with video for the past few days. I did appreciate what I did hear and appreciate the questions. Thank you, Liza
Who would I be without fear? A very vulnerable human.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Honestly, I have no idea. My whole life I have taken whatever’s been “wrong” on as a passion – learning, helping, teaching, building, catching, etc. My meaning and purpose has come from accepting and helping others find their way through whatever the “wrong” was with me at that time. If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, everything would have to change (thoughts, behaviors, responses, relationships) or else I’d be a fraud. I think I might struggle with anger and self-blame for believing something’s been wrong with me ’til now. I think I’d have more opportunity to be who I please, but I don’t want to lose who I am now, the me who’s been built on believing I am wrong, to get there. She sits on my heart and says, “You don’t want me.” I hold my heart and say back to her, “Real, but not true.” But something IS wrong with me. What am I supposed to do with that?
I would be the one to go on road trips again with my daughter to visit my family and friends. My driving anxiety began 2.5 years ago when I had a panic attack on the freeway, and ever since I have been afraid to drive on the freeway. I have always loved to drive and this has been very difficult to live with. I have still tried, but I’m always scared and can’t do it longer than 30 min. I suppose practice would help retrain my brain, but it’s hard to get started. Thank you for your 3 steps, I enjoy your calm, helpful advice.
I am not certain who I will be but I would “stop the worry” about the things I cannot change and use my energy to get things accomplished in my life. I would be more assertive and be unafraid of what others will think of me.
I would be more independent. I would reach out more to my community to share what I have to offer, instead of not having the confidence to get involved, for fear of what I have to offer isn’t good enough.
I consider myself a very imaginative person. My life involves much creativity and art but I am completely stumped by your question, “who your you be if you didn’t think something was wrong with you?” I cannot imagine. Maybe if I meditate on it an image will arise and I will try but I am so surprised that my fertile imagination is coming up with no image right now. It actually makes me believe that there is something even more wrong with me!
I would stop seeking approval or validity of myself from others. I would like myself and treat myself well. I would contribute to meaningful, or frivolous, conversation. I would laugh without hesitation. I would allow myself to get things wrong, make a fool of myself and be ok with that. I would embrace life, get involved and feel.
I think I would be a more confident explorer in my own life, more active in seeking out new experiences and I’d be more confident in my place in the world.
I would be lighter, so much lighter. And kinder. I wouldn’t fixate on the past, on transient bodily pain, on a future of frightening what-ifs. I would feel compassion for those who judge me, knowing they’re probably feeling something is wrong with them. I be more aware and less vigilant at the same time.
Who would I be without the fear? I would be know as the Cancer Cure Guy instead I told others who were already working in the field so that they could develop the program and share with others. Now iv Vitamin C is accepted by NIH and used world wide.
I would have a lighter heart, I would be more relaxed about facing challenging tasks, I would enjoy spending time alone more, and I would be more optimistic and less anxious about finding and developing a new partner relationship.
I love this question, who would I be without fear. I think I would be happier, more connected to others and having fulfilled many of the dreams that I felt I was not good enough to pursue. Thank you for this video series. I look forward to staying connected to your teaching and learning more.
I would feel lighter and freer, be able to accomplish so much more and enjoy my life more fully. I would not feel stuck.
I would be more authentic, which is my goal.
Without fear I would be a happier person who could enjoy the activities I used to enjoy.
I would continue to open and expand, travel, flourish in my career…I will continue to get free from fear, rejection, hurt …I will feel much more free!
I would be a playful, creative and fun being in the flow of life. Thanks Tara for the question!
just thinking the thought softens my heart. I would be joyous, light, doing my best even if I didn’t win all the time.
Free, unbound and at peace with myself. Ok with my decisions.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. The suffering of being stuck in a trance is very real and your simple reminder of ‘real but not true’ is a wonderful awakening moment to use.
I would continue to open and expand. I would not continue to let go of old feelings of failure, fear or rejection…
Who I would be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, why I would be
ME! ME, the me who usually experiences Calm and peace, joy, gratitude, compassion, willingness to help others, light-heartedness, humor, and other
authentic pieces of my being. Ah, if only fear and self doubt would decrease!!!
Thank you Tara for the exquisite way you illuminate the cape of the fearless heart.
Your work is so very enlightening to the dark places many people find themselves. I work with clients all the time that struggle with this and I myself, as a therapist, still battle with remnants of it that I grew up with and have spent much of my life battling.
Who would I be without fear? Free to truly be me and at ease to stretch into my optimal self with confidence and grace 🙂
Thank you so much
How frustrating! I cannot access more than some 9 minutes…
Please help!
Paul
I would be more care free and would be able to enjoy the moment more. I would be more outgoing, try more new things and be more confident. I would live a fuller life and be able to do more with my kids.
I would be more spontaneous and free spirited and not worry so much.
The videos are not playing. Is this a problem with others also?
I would be happier, fun loving, a better friend, have more fulfilling relationships, have the energy to exercise more frequently, probably be more creative and a more accomplished artist since I would spend more time practicing my art rather than just thinking about it and being drained by my fear. Tara, thank you for the question.
I would be, fun spirited and free. Laughing and singing like a child. I would travel more and engage in more social activities. A strong adventurous woman with never ending confidence.
I would be a published novelist with a book or two on the besrseller list. I would have friends and perhaps even a husband or lover.
I would enjoy life and people to the fullest.
Wouldn’t be my mothers daughter
I would be a strong woman, standing tall. Full of adventure and vitality.
Will these videos be available another day? I am having difficulties having a consistent connection with video for the past few days. I did appreciate what I did hear and appreciate the questions. Thank you, Liza
But what about fears that ARE real? Like terminal illness, climate catastrophe, etc. Thanks.
Who would I be without fear? A very vulnerable human.
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Honestly, I have no idea. My whole life I have taken whatever’s been “wrong” on as a passion – learning, helping, teaching, building, catching, etc. My meaning and purpose has come from accepting and helping others find their way through whatever the “wrong” was with me at that time. If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, everything would have to change (thoughts, behaviors, responses, relationships) or else I’d be a fraud. I think I might struggle with anger and self-blame for believing something’s been wrong with me ’til now. I think I’d have more opportunity to be who I please, but I don’t want to lose who I am now, the me who’s been built on believing I am wrong, to get there. She sits on my heart and says, “You don’t want me.” I hold my heart and say back to her, “Real, but not true.” But something IS wrong with me. What am I supposed to do with that?
I would be the one to go on road trips again with my daughter to visit my family and friends. My driving anxiety began 2.5 years ago when I had a panic attack on the freeway, and ever since I have been afraid to drive on the freeway. I have always loved to drive and this has been very difficult to live with. I have still tried, but I’m always scared and can’t do it longer than 30 min. I suppose practice would help retrain my brain, but it’s hard to get started. Thank you for your 3 steps, I enjoy your calm, helpful advice.
I would be a confident woman who trusted her intuition and used her abilities to enrich herself and the world
I would be less afraid of making mistakes.
I would be free, open, adventurous, and willing to take more risks.
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me, I would be a strong woman unafraid to make friends. I would be happy and I would be helpful.
Thank you Tara loved these processes. I feel more peace when I listen. Jude
I am not certain who I will be but I would “stop the worry” about the things I cannot change and use my energy to get things accomplished in my life. I would be more assertive and be unafraid of what others will think of me.
I would be a less angry, lonely, and sad person, which would enable me to have a more fulfilling relationships.
I would by happy go lucky. I would find humor in any situation. I would love myself and be greatfull for what l have and what l am.
I would be more independent. I would reach out more to my community to share what I have to offer, instead of not having the confidence to get involved, for fear of what I have to offer isn’t good enough.
I would immediately feel lighter and freedom, and an open space inside.
Thank you, as with many somatic focused therapies your work helps establish courage to make space for mine and others uncomfortable sensations.
I would be free to offer help to so many others but more importantly I would help myself! fj
Thank you Tara. I have enjoyed this 3 part series.
I consider myself a very imaginative person. My life involves much creativity and art but I am completely stumped by your question, “who your you be if you didn’t think something was wrong with you?” I cannot imagine. Maybe if I meditate on it an image will arise and I will try but I am so surprised that my fertile imagination is coming up with no image right now. It actually makes me believe that there is something even more wrong with me!
If I didn’t have the fear and self-doubt, I would be far more open hearted and engaged with others.
I would be a fulfilled and whole woman who is making her contribution to humanity, in small and big ways.
I would be a whole and healthy woman who enjoys realizing her fullest potentials in life and love!
I would stop seeking approval or validity of myself from others. I would like myself and treat myself well. I would contribute to meaningful, or frivolous, conversation. I would laugh without hesitation. I would allow myself to get things wrong, make a fool of myself and be ok with that. I would embrace life, get involved and feel.
It would be amazing if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me. Life would be very different.
This was a great and digestible series – thanks so much. I like the stories and short but hopefully effective sound-bites to take away from here.
I think I would be a more confident explorer in my own life, more active in seeking out new experiences and I’d be more confident in my place in the world.
I would be lighter, so much lighter. And kinder. I wouldn’t fixate on the past, on transient bodily pain, on a future of frightening what-ifs. I would feel compassion for those who judge me, knowing they’re probably feeling something is wrong with them. I be more aware and less vigilant at the same time.
Tara, you are a blessing. Thank you.
Who would I be without the fear? I would be know as the Cancer Cure Guy instead I told others who were already working in the field so that they could develop the program and share with others. Now iv Vitamin C is accepted by NIH and used world wide.
I would be a Enlightened Bodhisattva.