I would be much happier, unafraid and able to be true to my real self. As a nine year old I was informed by my cousins at school that my father “was not my real father.” Mum did not deny this and told me I was adopted by the father I knew. She gave me limited information about my biological father, some that was possibly true. Shortly after this we went to the beach on a family outing with another family. When we arrived the other children were quick to leave for the beach. I only remember Mum and maybe Dad were present when a male member from the other family asked Mum, which one is the stray? Then referring to me he said, is that her? Mum answered, yeah that’s her. I was aware of Mum’s discomfort but that didn’t ease what I was experiencing. I just wanted her to hold me and to yell at him. I felt like I didn’t have the right to exist, I visualized myself as a pool of oil. I have recognized for a long time that this was a major event in my life.
I think fear is a natural emotion helping us to escape situations that are dangerous to our wellbeing! On the other hand have no fear would be pleasant but I personally think it is a part of our emotions!
Wow. I would be fearless! I would be a source of love and energy to everyone I came in contact with. I would be excited about the potential of every moment to be great. The amazing thing is that I have told myself these stories of deficiency for so long… Thank you for “nailing” this truth!
I would allow myself to be seen in my life through work , within my family and with my beloved. I would set more boundaries, speak with intention and face the fears that hold me back from being me
Tara is a great person to listen too, calm non judgmental wise, helping people
I loved the picture of the girl opening a box which had an octopus under it with grief from rejection.
and the statement real but not true ,
plus the parting phrase of imagine who we would be with out fear answer
Happy and free
What a wonderful question: Who would I be without the fear that there is something wrong with me? For me, I would be someone who is able to make a difference in the lives of others. I would try new things and likely enjoy life a whole lot more.
I’d be FREE. And allowed to feel the excitement of “life”. Sadly my power is given more away to the trepidation and preparation of things going awry. How sad for the soul . I lament that .
Shelley Stockwell-Nicholas, Rancho Palos Verdes, CA, USAsays
I believe everything is RIGHT with me… “Freedom’s just another word for nothing lift to lose” Be brave. Tell your truth. Speak up for what is RIGHT and you won’t go wrong.
I would be much happier, unafraid and able to be true to my real self. As a nine year old I was informed by my cousins at school that my father “was not my real father.” Mum did not deny this and told me I was adopted by the father I knew. She gave me limited information about my biological father, some that was possibly true. Shortly after this we went to the beach on a family outing with another family. When we arrived the other children were quick to leave for the beach. I only remember Mum and maybe Dad were present when a male member from the other family asked Mum, which one is the stray? Then referring to me he said, is that her? Mum answered, yeah that’s her. I was aware of Mum’s discomfort but that didn’t ease what I was experiencing. I just wanted her to hold me and to yell at him. I felt like I didn’t have the right to exist, I visualized myself as a pool of oil. I have recognized for a long time that this was a major event in my life.
I think fear is a natural emotion helping us to escape situations that are dangerous to our wellbeing! On the other hand have no fear would be pleasant but I personally think it is a part of our emotions!
I would be a strong courageous woman who would feel self confident in my beliefs and dreams and values
I’d be able to work with fear as a normalizing experience!
I would be a free person
I would be spontaneous and free to trust my intuition!
Awesome
More present and aware.
Without fear, I would be more adventurous and open to experience life. I would reduce self judgement and limitations that I impose on myself.
Wow. I would be fearless! I would be a source of love and energy to everyone I came in contact with. I would be excited about the potential of every moment to be great. The amazing thing is that I have told myself these stories of deficiency for so long… Thank you for “nailing” this truth!
I would be free to do all the things I dream of.
Without fear, I would be strong, smart enough, kind, sensitive, I might reach out more and ask for what I need.
I find myself unable to answer this question. I cannot envision anything beyond my presence. I will continue to try tho.
I would be someone who doesn’t think constantly about her own health but is free to think about others and their problems.
Free. Open and loving. My heart would be bigger.
At peace, anxiety free.
I believe u would enjoy my life more. I think I would be more creative with my time and accomplish more if my dreams.
I would love greatly and I would let myself be loved.
UNSTOPPABLE!
A better pianist.
That question just blew my mind. I don’t know what else to say but I am going to explore that question.
More prepared to face life…depression and anxiety.
the best version of myself
I really don’t know. That is sort of hard to imagine, as I feel like fear is always present and affects me in so many ways.
this is the right questions for me at this moment. thank you! your work in self-compassion has awakened me!
I would live a no “look back life “and be without the monkey on my back
I would be a confident and self assured Individual.
I would allow myself to be seen in my life through work , within my family and with my beloved. I would set more boundaries, speak with intention and face the fears that hold me back from being me
I would be my true self
I want to be glad and joyfull again
Clear, confident, free, open to life
I would be happy again
I really appreciate the question and statement to share with clients. I will definitely be using them
I would be limitless
Unknown
I think it can take a lot of trading to manage that fear!
I would be the person I want to be with no limitations!
Someone with a family of my own, but much less travelled & achieved professionally…
I would be a strong and creative person serving the world on a daily basis.
I would move through changes with full breath. Eyes relaxed and aware of others with ease and gratitude.
I changed the question and find myself with diffrente views and perspectives, Thank you
Tara is a great person to listen too, calm non judgmental wise, helping people
I loved the picture of the girl opening a box which had an octopus under it with grief from rejection.
and the statement real but not true ,
plus the parting phrase of imagine who we would be with out fear answer
Happy and free
Open, reckless, vulnerable, unsafe
What a wonderful question: Who would I be without the fear that there is something wrong with me? For me, I would be someone who is able to make a difference in the lives of others. I would try new things and likely enjoy life a whole lot more.
I would have been confident, playful + curious.
Freedom to be what I value.
Thanks for your insights and work.
I’d be FREE. And allowed to feel the excitement of “life”. Sadly my power is given more away to the trepidation and preparation of things going awry. How sad for the soul . I lament that .
Who would I be? Fully Nancy, the me I was created to be which got encrusted with the barnacles of self-doubt, inhibiting more objective reflection.
Without fear I could be the person I want to be and live the life I want to live with less anxiety and self doubt.
Calm and free without anxiety.
I believe everything is RIGHT with me… “Freedom’s just another word for nothing lift to lose” Be brave. Tell your truth. Speak up for what is RIGHT and you won’t go wrong.