I love this, especially the 3 step practice.
Regarding the 3rd video, I worked with a client who had similar beliefs about being abandoned. We challenged this successfully. Then it turned out her husband had an affair. How does it work in this kind of scenario, when we teach our clients real but not true?
Many thanks.
Without fear, I would be an outstanding teacher, Life Coach type of person. I would be respected & loved. Because my skills are “new age” & downright foreign to many…especially in a rural, conservative setting…I feel boxed in, judged and misunderstood.
I’m glad to hear this. I have had the help of a good therapist ( Ive been to many who weren’t that helpful) who is helping me look at the many narcissists I have
been a victim to. I obviously did not believe I was ok when I was hit and yelled at
by my drunk, dilated pupils x husband. I had no self confidence I now realize. I now realize all his lies and manipulations and cheats over the years. Its devastating to realize what I bought into. I have some kind of complex PTSD I understand. I do understand I am not the one who has something major wrong with me.
He was . And other men I have been attracted to were also narcissistic. So sad!
How do I heal? That self doubt still sneaks in.
I enjoyed this mini series on anxiety fear and doubt. I have used the mindfulness technique with clients before however, I will definitely use the skills in my upcoming sessions.
Looking forward to more
I would live more confidently and be able to truly connect with other people. I would be able to life my life in a way that is beautifully expressed in the last verse of John O’Donohue’s poem – A Morning Offering:
“May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love.
To postpone my dream no longer
But to do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.”
I would be a confident mother.
I would be a ballerina.
I would engage with men I really liked.
I would be a fearless leader.
I would be a more organized therapist.
I would quit comparing myself to others.
I wouldn’t envy so much.
I would be more relaxed.
“The future is to be planned for not worried about “
Dr Micheal Porder
Cardiologist
NYC
Since I’ve survived more than one harrowing situation, I would not want to be without the healthy, protective fear you (Tara) mention in your first video. So I’ll concentrate on “fearless” in the sense of being without anxiety or groundless anticipatory fear. “Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?” I would be more in touch with my body and what it is telling me. I would be healing deeply from a lifetime of developmental and multiple traumas. I would be more confident in my ability to establish boundaries, to feel more deeply that I have something to offer my students and perhaps a wider circle. I would reach out to seek a partner in life even at my older age, as I would not be ashamed and frightened, and I would be open to love and be loved (and to feeling confident that I know what that truly feels like). Because my life and income would not be so constricted, I would lead a fuller life, one with much greater clarity. My health would improve. I would be open to joy, and more able to convey joy to those around me. I would feel readier to face death, whever it comes, with fewer regrets, and more gratefulness for the course of my life. Thank you for the thought-provoking questions, Tara.
Your realistic acceptance of very real ‘not good enough’ beliefs and physiology is so true and loving. Thank you so much. Leaning in…Real but not true…a fantastic challenge to a very old story of feeling inadequate for whatever reason!
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Happy, powerful…mostly at peace. Loved and loving.
My initial thought/image is being light and free – like losing 30 pounds instantly. I would physically feel better as well as emotionally. I would take more risks, but maybe they wouldn’t even feel like risks . . . Thank you Tara!
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be happy and not worry about anything I did or thought. Seems like the feeling “something is wrong with me” ” or I’m not good enough” or “noone will love me” is endemic in everyone at some point in their life…except for a few people I know. They are confident and never think there is something wrong with them. They do not care what others think of them and they are almost always happy and positive. So that is what I would strive for. Not caring what others think of me and being happy with what we have and make the best of it. If given lemons, make lemonade.
My youngest daughter (she is 15) is caught in this loop to the point where she has trouble leaving the house. She received a service dog to help with her OCD and anxiety at the end of November. Even so she is struggling so hard and I have to constantly push her so that she doesn’t continue to decline. For example she said a few days ago that she cannot walk her dog Macy on her own as she is too afraid. This was something that she was able to do a couple of months ago. Her therapist really wants to help her but Meg is so afraid of the uncomfortable thoughts in her head that she completely shuts down. We have done everything to help her but she needs to work with us so that she can stop white knuckling it through the day. I defiantly see the anxiety worsening and her addiction growing stronger. I think that with your technique she will be able to ease into the process a little at a time. if you could send me the audio that would be fabulous. I really thought it was wonderful. With thanks, Chery Reid
Without fear I would be my most creative, kind and loving self, unworried about others negativity and willing to trust more.
I love this, especially the 3 step practice.
Regarding the 3rd video, I worked with a client who had similar beliefs about being abandoned. We challenged this successfully. Then it turned out her husband had an affair. How does it work in this kind of scenario, when we teach our clients real but not true?
Many thanks.
I would be spontaneous and grateful!
Tara, I enjoyed your videos. Very helpful info to use in my practice.
Thank you
Judy
Without fear, I would be an outstanding teacher, Life Coach type of person. I would be respected & loved. Because my skills are “new age” & downright foreign to many…especially in a rural, conservative setting…I feel boxed in, judged and misunderstood.
Thanks so much for continuing to share, Tara. No matter how manner times I hear you share this information, it is always helpful to hear again.
excellent video!!! Thank you for breaking it down with the mindfulness technique!
I would be me, but maybe sooner understanding and appreciating the fact how great it is to be me!
I would be me, but maybe sooner understanding and appreciating the fact how great it is to be me!
I would be lovable, gentle, open, brave, full of energy.
I would be a healthier, kinder person
Very incite full.
Tara, your videos are always to compassionate, insightful and intelligent – lovingly communicated. Thank you. Monica
Hello There
I’d be my real expressive emotional self as God I intended me to be exercising my free Will. I’d be living in joy and happiness
Pamela
Excellent information! I’d like to learn more
Free…..
I would be more able to reach out in confidence and probably much more effective. Probably have more energy too as self doubt it tiring!
I could enjoy my life without being ‘on guard’
Always wonderful ,hope to join the program
I’m glad to hear this. I have had the help of a good therapist ( Ive been to many who weren’t that helpful) who is helping me look at the many narcissists I have
been a victim to. I obviously did not believe I was ok when I was hit and yelled at
by my drunk, dilated pupils x husband. I had no self confidence I now realize. I now realize all his lies and manipulations and cheats over the years. Its devastating to realize what I bought into. I have some kind of complex PTSD I understand. I do understand I am not the one who has something major wrong with me.
He was . And other men I have been attracted to were also narcissistic. So sad!
How do I heal? That self doubt still sneaks in.
My best self, confident, shining, not worried if someone doesn’t reciprocate friendliness. Love all the other comments:)
i would be much bigger in my reach, much greater in my influence and much more effective in my world!
I would gain more trust in myself and feel more connected to myself and others.
Living my fullest potential with ease and abundance
Free and happy
I enjoyed this mini series on anxiety fear and doubt. I have used the mindfulness technique with clients before however, I will definitely use the skills in my upcoming sessions.
Looking forward to more
I would live more confidently and be able to truly connect with other people. I would be able to life my life in a way that is beautifully expressed in the last verse of John O’Donohue’s poem – A Morning Offering:
“May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love.
To postpone my dream no longer
But to do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.”
Thanks Tara for these videos. Without fear I would be myself, uncompromised.
Very well presented, thank you. I look forward to hearing more about your course.
I am really enjoying your presentations; thank you for planting the seed☺
I would BE a fully functioning Human Being, and mindful of my Divine Nature.
I would move forward with confidence and ease and a light heart trusting in the positive outcomes in a path chosen.
Without fear, I would be more confident, joyful, & creative. Thank you for your wisdom & reminders!
Thanks a lot for the inspiring talks. I´ll try it on myself and my patients!
Thank you so much for this wisdom to put into practice in my own life and to share with clients. Gentle, respectful, compassionate.
I will be amazing fearless, and feeling I can do anything my heart desires.
Thank you Tara, these videos are so filled with love and concern for peoples Health. I would live to se More of your wise words.
I would be stepping into the private practice opportunity in waiting in front of me. Thank you for this gentle yet committed approach.
A self-confident ,beautiful and inspiring individual inside out!
I would be a therapist. I would love freely without fear of rejection and without expectations. I would be a single mom by choice.
my true self
Without fear, I would be free; released; a confident self asserting woman.
I would be a confident mother.
I would be a ballerina.
I would engage with men I really liked.
I would be a fearless leader.
I would be a more organized therapist.
I would quit comparing myself to others.
I wouldn’t envy so much.
I would be more relaxed.
“The future is to be planned for not worried about “
Dr Micheal Porder
Cardiologist
NYC
Since I’ve survived more than one harrowing situation, I would not want to be without the healthy, protective fear you (Tara) mention in your first video. So I’ll concentrate on “fearless” in the sense of being without anxiety or groundless anticipatory fear. “Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me?” I would be more in touch with my body and what it is telling me. I would be healing deeply from a lifetime of developmental and multiple traumas. I would be more confident in my ability to establish boundaries, to feel more deeply that I have something to offer my students and perhaps a wider circle. I would reach out to seek a partner in life even at my older age, as I would not be ashamed and frightened, and I would be open to love and be loved (and to feeling confident that I know what that truly feels like). Because my life and income would not be so constricted, I would lead a fuller life, one with much greater clarity. My health would improve. I would be open to joy, and more able to convey joy to those around me. I would feel readier to face death, whever it comes, with fewer regrets, and more gratefulness for the course of my life. Thank you for the thought-provoking questions, Tara.
Loved this
Your realistic acceptance of very real ‘not good enough’ beliefs and physiology is so true and loving. Thank you so much. Leaning in…Real but not true…a fantastic challenge to a very old story of feeling inadequate for whatever reason!
Who would I be if I didn’t believe something was wrong with me? Happy, powerful…mostly at peace. Loved and loving.
Thank you.
My initial thought/image is being light and free – like losing 30 pounds instantly. I would physically feel better as well as emotionally. I would take more risks, but maybe they wouldn’t even feel like risks . . . Thank you Tara!
I would be content with me as I am and open to any change and challenge that came my way.
If I didn’t believe something was wrong with me, I would be happy and not worry about anything I did or thought. Seems like the feeling “something is wrong with me” ” or I’m not good enough” or “noone will love me” is endemic in everyone at some point in their life…except for a few people I know. They are confident and never think there is something wrong with them. They do not care what others think of them and they are almost always happy and positive. So that is what I would strive for. Not caring what others think of me and being happy with what we have and make the best of it. If given lemons, make lemonade.
My youngest daughter (she is 15) is caught in this loop to the point where she has trouble leaving the house. She received a service dog to help with her OCD and anxiety at the end of November. Even so she is struggling so hard and I have to constantly push her so that she doesn’t continue to decline. For example she said a few days ago that she cannot walk her dog Macy on her own as she is too afraid. This was something that she was able to do a couple of months ago. Her therapist really wants to help her but Meg is so afraid of the uncomfortable thoughts in her head that she completely shuts down. We have done everything to help her but she needs to work with us so that she can stop white knuckling it through the day. I defiantly see the anxiety worsening and her addiction growing stronger. I think that with your technique she will be able to ease into the process a little at a time. if you could send me the audio that would be fabulous. I really thought it was wonderful. With thanks, Chery Reid