Hi, I am a psychotherapist in Italy. Since my first graduation I thought that something is wrong in me, not enough, not perfect, not almost satisfying…
So I lost years not doing what I really wanted to do. Then I knew mindfulness… Practicing day by day, I started. Now, I love being a ‘best can I do’ psychotherapist. Thank you for letting me sharing my fear.
Federica
I’ve always known lm lovable and ok . And now in later life lm told it a lot . But the years of brainwashing and mental abuse has effected my physical body . I just can’t do what l liked doing and life is slow and in pain . I push push through but have a fear of stopping just incase l can’t get up again . This fear is ribbing me of peace of mind as lm quit ill but on the other had achieving a lot cincidering .
I’d be a stronger person, with a true sense of my own self worth, and unshakable confidence.
My relationships would be strong & fulfilling; I’d still be married.
I’m grateful for the videos, thank you
Without fear i would’t have so much compassion and patience for other people with mental problems, i wouldn’t be so sensitive as i am now and i wouldn’t have the experience of the depths of life and i wouldn’t practice selflove and selfcompassion. I wouldn’t be so creative to express my fear thoughts.
I accept my fear and take good care of myself with dance, music, movements, art, humor, medication.
Who would I be without fear and anxiety? I would be happier, and have deeper relationships. I would undoubtedly have a richer life… Thanks for the thought provoking videos.
Beyond fear and self doubt I’d be using art to create new neural networks which I am already doing with a few clients, but I’d be reaching out much further.
I have been wracked with fear and anxiety after a real trauma caused by the mental illness and depression, experienced by my daughter, and then, after a failed suicide 11 years ago, she was left with a permanent and Devastating brain injury. She then died from breast cancer three years ago aged only 31. I live in constant fear of losing my son, who has also experienced meantal health problems, and my husband. Fear/anxiety of further loss prevents me from living in the moment and is so damaging and terrible to live with.
I still add some words into my earlier answer here: I just can have rest and breathe softly; be 100%:ly where I am, with all my senses, let everything flow. At its best. I can be alone, I can be with you, others, as well – feel what we really are, sense all the nature, even the cosmos, be The One. My body is as well and wonderful as it can and has to be. To feel and so called understand real love, unconditionally. It’s almost like the moment when you have your little baby on your chest. You need someone to love, and you need to be loved, at first, I think.
I work with adults just starting on their recovery from addiction and fear is such a part of that. These tips and ways to help my clients will be very useful. Thank you.
I’ve lived with fear and expectation of rejection all my life. Because of a visible disability (Polio ) , there was always someone to break into my sense of myself and point out my flaws. This is very disconnecting to a child. I’ve always felt an outsider and now living with the late effects of the disease for over 30 years, have resulted in me being very isolated. Not from choice, but physical weakness and mental exhaustion leave me little opportunity to take part in the things I love.
But you help me Tara. I thank you. You give me hope.’ Namaste and thank you’ as you say.
Myself. The truest version, vulnerable but strong because I could declare weakness without fear of judgment, and with a felt sense of
self kindness and acceptance
I have been wracked with fear and anxiety after a real trauma caused by the mental illness and depression, experienced by my daughter, and then, after a failed suicide 11 years ago, she was left with a permanent and Devastating brain injury. She then died from breast cancer three years ago aged only 31. I live in constant fear of losing my son, who has also experienced meantal health problems, and my husband. Fear/anxiety of further loss prevents me from living in the moment and is so damaging and terrible to live with.
I work with many clients who are living with serious physical health conditions so fear based living is endemic for many of them. Thank you for sharing your creative appoaches on working to cultivate a fearless heart.
Think it was my fear that made me who I am today. Looking forward to being void of it more than ever before to see it unleash more potential now that I can work though the fight and flight more smoothly as fear is inevitable but now more responsive to the calmer understanding of how to breath through and increase the joy of life without fear of fear.
The videos were inspriring. Thanks, Tara, for the opportunity to get a taste of your expertise and calm presentation.
I would be a gifted couples therapist, a teacher of counselling and a supervisor. My limiting fears of not being good enough prevent me from expanding fully in my chosen profession.
Useful and evocative phrase, “real but not true”. I might try using this with my client along with the question of “Who would you be …..?”
Thank you very much for the free videos. Very much appreciated.
Who would I be? I would have to take responsibility for not getting things done, becoming successful and helping more people. So hopefully I would be a better version of myself.
I’d be 100% myself. That is, I’d shed the scary part of me that has unnaturally attached itself to my sense of self and be able to express my spontaneous self with much less hesitation. I should add that I’m moving in that direction.
A delight to watch Tara again with her soft, informative delivery.
Not sure about “Real, but not True” – Epictetus and the 1950’s cognitive revolution in a beautifully simple guise – what the Life Training (More To Life) has been teaching for many years. I think “Feels real but not true” would be a clearer.
I’d be teaching students and leading workshops without anxiety about my performance. I’d also be dating freely without fear of rejection. Living life without fear, what a freeing thought to consider.
Thank you Tara.
I would be somebody who stops harming herself and others and begins taking better care of herself and others. I would begin to be somebody more peaceful, more loving and more free. Thanks for your teachings. I meditate “it’s real but not true”
I waa surprised by the questoin. After that, I felt there is posibility to answer. Nice filing. Promising. I needed that questiin theoughout whole my lufe! Thank You!
Assertive, Loving, Prosperous fearless person. I would have qualified with my Doctorate degree by now. I hate to think of a lot of good people that I have missed an opportunity of being friends with because of the chronic anxiety. I have improved tremendously with counseling and with mindful exercise and breathing, I know I can do better
Really great information. Very powerful self statement and question. Can’t wait to use this with my clients. Thank you.
I would be the energetic one –
Hi, I am a psychotherapist in Italy. Since my first graduation I thought that something is wrong in me, not enough, not perfect, not almost satisfying…
So I lost years not doing what I really wanted to do. Then I knew mindfulness… Practicing day by day, I started. Now, I love being a ‘best can I do’ psychotherapist. Thank you for letting me sharing my fear.
Federica
I’ve always known lm lovable and ok . And now in later life lm told it a lot . But the years of brainwashing and mental abuse has effected my physical body . I just can’t do what l liked doing and life is slow and in pain . I push push through but have a fear of stopping just incase l can’t get up again . This fear is ribbing me of peace of mind as lm quit ill but on the other had achieving a lot cincidering .
I’d be a stronger person, with a true sense of my own self worth, and unshakable confidence.
My relationships would be strong & fulfilling; I’d still be married.
I’m grateful for the videos, thank you
Without fear i would’t have so much compassion and patience for other people with mental problems, i wouldn’t be so sensitive as i am now and i wouldn’t have the experience of the depths of life and i wouldn’t practice selflove and selfcompassion. I wouldn’t be so creative to express my fear thoughts.
I accept my fear and take good care of myself with dance, music, movements, art, humor, medication.
I would be more spontaneous.
As always simply and clearly described, thanks for bringing your awareness of the causes of inner conflict and limiting beliefs too so many
Damian
Thank for this simple and powerful practice.
Anne from Canada
Thank you for sharing this valuable video.
I think I would feel free to discover what is truly important in life.
Great presentation! Material to integrate into my current approach. Thank you!
Who would I be without fear and anxiety? I would be happier, and have deeper relationships. I would undoubtedly have a richer life… Thanks for the thought provoking videos.
Without fear I would be confident, would not procrastinate, would be able to connect with others on a deeper level.
Maybe I would be more joyous.
What a gentle, kind, doable introduction to unlocking the prison of fear, thank you
To say it with words of Christophe André : imperfect, free and joyful (I hope this is an adequate translation). Thanks so much for your teachings
I WOULD BE THE FIVE POINTED ASTERISK
I don’t know. Probably I would have more freedom to…?
Great content thanks. Really nicely explained and helpful concepts to grasp.
Beyond fear and self doubt I’d be using art to create new neural networks which I am already doing with a few clients, but I’d be reaching out much further.
I have been wracked with fear and anxiety after a real trauma caused by the mental illness and depression, experienced by my daughter, and then, after a failed suicide 11 years ago, she was left with a permanent and Devastating brain injury. She then died from breast cancer three years ago aged only 31. I live in constant fear of losing my son, who has also experienced meantal health problems, and my husband. Fear/anxiety of further loss prevents me from living in the moment and is so damaging and terrible to live with.
I still add some words into my earlier answer here: I just can have rest and breathe softly; be 100%:ly where I am, with all my senses, let everything flow. At its best. I can be alone, I can be with you, others, as well – feel what we really are, sense all the nature, even the cosmos, be The One. My body is as well and wonderful as it can and has to be. To feel and so called understand real love, unconditionally. It’s almost like the moment when you have your little baby on your chest. You need someone to love, and you need to be loved, at first, I think.
I work with adults just starting on their recovery from addiction and fear is such a part of that. These tips and ways to help my clients will be very useful. Thank you.
Fabulous content which evoked deep contemplation. Very useful for the work I do with clients and myself. Thank you!
I’ve lived with fear and expectation of rejection all my life. Because of a visible disability (Polio ) , there was always someone to break into my sense of myself and point out my flaws. This is very disconnecting to a child. I’ve always felt an outsider and now living with the late effects of the disease for over 30 years, have resulted in me being very isolated. Not from choice, but physical weakness and mental exhaustion leave me little opportunity to take part in the things I love.
But you help me Tara. I thank you. You give me hope.’ Namaste and thank you’ as you say.
Myself. The truest version, vulnerable but strong because I could declare weakness without fear of judgment, and with a felt sense of
self kindness and acceptance
I have been wracked with fear and anxiety after a real trauma caused by the mental illness and depression, experienced by my daughter, and then, after a failed suicide 11 years ago, she was left with a permanent and Devastating brain injury. She then died from breast cancer three years ago aged only 31. I live in constant fear of losing my son, who has also experienced meantal health problems, and my husband. Fear/anxiety of further loss prevents me from living in the moment and is so damaging and terrible to live with.
I would be a traveler. I would be more creative and focused Thanks Tara. Lots to think about.
I get it
I forget it
I feel OK with it
I feel unable without it
And round I go.
Somtimes quicker
Sometimes missing
If only I could remember I am ok.
Veru deep understanding of what a fear and anxiety are about and also clarity and vision about what to do to free ourself from it…
I work with many clients who are living with serious physical health conditions so fear based living is endemic for many of them. Thank you for sharing your creative appoaches on working to cultivate a fearless heart.
I would be light, open and free to engage with what is in the here and now.
Think it was my fear that made me who I am today. Looking forward to being void of it more than ever before to see it unleash more potential now that I can work though the fight and flight more smoothly as fear is inevitable but now more responsive to the calmer understanding of how to breath through and increase the joy of life without fear of fear.
The videos were inspriring. Thanks, Tara, for the opportunity to get a taste of your expertise and calm presentation.
I would be a gifted couples therapist, a teacher of counselling and a supervisor. My limiting fears of not being good enough prevent me from expanding fully in my chosen profession.
Useful and evocative phrase, “real but not true”. I might try using this with my client along with the question of “Who would you be …..?”
Thank you very much for the free videos. Very much appreciated.
I found those videos very helpful and I really enjoyed watching this. Also mindfulness way of facing fear was helpful .
Who would I be? I would have to take responsibility for not getting things done, becoming successful and helping more people. So hopefully I would be a better version of myself.
If I didn’t believe there was something wrong with me I’d be free to grow and thrive.
My fear is of pain… Pain that started with bladder issues.. Infections in fact
My fear is the pain I had may return
I would be love
I will be a creative artist and a poet, moving comfortably through the day with awareness and compassion.
I’d be 100% myself. That is, I’d shed the scary part of me that has unnaturally attached itself to my sense of self and be able to express my spontaneous self with much less hesitation. I should add that I’m moving in that direction.
I have truly enjoyed these teachings but each time I try to comment, it does not post.
I remember that person. I miss that person.
A delight to watch Tara again with her soft, informative delivery.
Not sure about “Real, but not True” – Epictetus and the 1950’s cognitive revolution in a beautifully simple guise – what the Life Training (More To Life) has been teaching for many years. I think “Feels real but not true” would be a clearer.
But yes, thought provoking and reconnecting.
Thank you
A less self-centered and more open person
I’d be teaching students and leading workshops without anxiety about my performance. I’d also be dating freely without fear of rejection. Living life without fear, what a freeing thought to consider.
Thank you Tara.
I would be somebody who stops harming herself and others and begins taking better care of herself and others. I would begin to be somebody more peaceful, more loving and more free. Thanks for your teachings. I meditate “it’s real but not true”
I waa surprised by the questoin. After that, I felt there is posibility to answer. Nice filing. Promising. I needed that questiin theoughout whole my lufe! Thank You!
Assertive, Loving, Prosperous fearless person. I would have qualified with my Doctorate degree by now. I hate to think of a lot of good people that I have missed an opportunity of being friends with because of the chronic anxiety. I have improved tremendously with counseling and with mindful exercise and breathing, I know I can do better
Why have background music? I couldn’t continue to listen.