I wouldn’t take what other people said so personally.
I would be much more ambitious in my career. I would probably enjoy living in the present moment more.
Great video, thank you!
Free. Free to love, to feel, to act wisely and unwisely; feel to offer love, free not to
receive what I believe i need; I’d set others free from all my own stuff. I’d spread
my wings and soar on the winds which life brings.
If I did not believe something was wrong with me I would fully step into my true self and follow my heart. There would be courage to take risks and the strong belief that I am enough.
This is such a valuable mantra. If I stopped believing fear based lies I’d be content, confident, compassionate and I’d open myself up to deeper connections with others more consistently. Thank you!
I couldn’t have gotten this a more perfect time in my life thank you. I would be able to handle living alone with so much grace. I’d have so much motivation for life,love,my career, and I wouldn’t be so intimidated by others. May even develope a whole social circle who knows but the visions that come to mind feel amazing!!!
I wouldn’t be stuck in guilt and shame . I would be brave and turn toward; realizing and forgiving my humanness .i would be more honest and
have more to give others instead of spending energy protecting myself .
I could purely love outward and inward. I would be FREE !! ???
Good question. I think I would be more peaceful and more present and take more risks in my work in terms of expanding my therapy service. Yes, fear of failure is beneath this.
Thank you ??
Without fear I would be a stronger therapist and lead my meditation groups more fluidly. I would become a force for healing others without hesitation and doubt. A free and loving voice that could bring change that is so needed.
Great and inspiring question. But I can barely imagine an answer, given how central the premise -that there’s something wrong with me-is to such much of my self-conception.
Great and inspiring question. But I can barely imagine an answer, given how central the premise (that there’s something wrong with me) is to such much of my self-conception.
Hi. I have notice that my fears influence in my relationships, especially in my family. I would be more self independent wife and more secure mother that make my son respect me. I would face fear naturally not get quiet and freeze. I would appreciated every day and be more motivated with life. It will impact in others too. Thank you for your videos, receive a hug from Argentina
I’m in my late 60s and have suffered all my life with fears of “ not being good enough “ and “ I won’t be able to cope “. I know this has held me back. Is it really possible that even now I could learn to be without fear or even to reduce my levels of fear ??
I would be living in full glorious color, feeling the deep rightness of being alive, with all that it means to be me, in this life in this moment. I would offer all that right back to the world in a passionate dance, with a smile on my face and a spring in my step.
I would stop distracting myself with excuses and live a more gratifying life, freed from taking on too many responsibilities and wallowing in self-pity.
What a profound question and how threatening! This one question challenges my equilibrium and who I believe I am. I might turn into a rock star! I’ve always wanted to be one! This one question….and whatever answer that follows could free me from the bondage of self doubt and fear. Do I really want to be free or have I become comfortable with my diagnosis and identity as someone sick?
The truth is I would like to be free and I’d like to be unstuck.
I’ve often limited myself by not wanting to imagine a life of freedom from self and ego. What if my dreams are not big enough? What if they don’t materialize. Get free and find out!
Reflecting on “real but not true” is such an expansive feeling. I know it feels real, and my mind will set on it, but to ask “ is it true” expands my heart space. What if it isn’t true. What if these limiting behaviors are based on thoughts that are not true? How different would life be! A simple phrase but so very powerful.
The question invites soul-searching and dares people to dream. I dare say that many responses would include words such as “confident”, “brave”, “serene”, resilient”, “healthy”, “peaceful”, “fulfilled”.
Without fear I would be the owner of my own business and in a relationship that is more open and honest because I would be able to communicate from my heart and a space of confidence in myself.
Interesting. Like using a “transference/countertransference” approach to your self. Looking FWD to trying it w/ my clients, who report they’ve done “wrong”, persistently.
Thank you for increasing awareness of the dynamics of fear and how to move through it in these times of very misdirected fear. I know deeply how it can strangle, disable and confuse. And compassion and acceptance for parts that are in the grip of it (with grounding and space for it to breathe) is the way through, creating more space for a fulfilling life. I need frequent reminders when fear comes up to visit and how luscious it is to free myself from its grip. Precious contribution appreciated!
Without fear, without believing something is wrong with me, I would be confident, I would love myself for who I am, and instead of just using my strength to merely survive each day, I would be clearer minded, prosperous, and more successful at using my broad skillset of wisdom in life and business and all the good I have to share with the world.
I viewed this after watching a recent short video of Carolyn Myss. In it she said the other’s behaviour was a reflection of something we had done previously. This I get. I then went deeper to discover why I reacted in a certain way in a current situation. It took me back to my ex husband (gaslighter type)’s blaming me. Even though I knew what he was saying was not true on a visceral level it still pained me. Why? I went deeper and related it to the old teachings of the Catholic church (10 yrs in Catholic day school) – being a sinner, guilt, not worthy and as a female, devalued. Then I listened to your 3rd video and it was further driven home. Thanks for the mantra. Will share this with others.
I would be able to commit to a relationship. I would be able to dream… sing and dance more joyfully. I would be sure I deserve the good things that happen in my life.
How interesting to reflect on ‘real but not true’. Echos of comments from my dad spring to mind, Words from 50-60 years ago. I’ve written three books, each best sellers in my field. For some reason the fear of not being good enough or falling short keep me from the writing of my next book. I love the questions, “Who would I be without fear? Who would I be if I didn’t believe I might fall short?” I am pulled back to a rich meditation I used when I wrote my third book in 1992. Thank you for opening that space for me.
I would be a different person! Fear holds us all back in some ways, delays action and prolongs discomfort. I love this mantra! Thank you.
I wouldn’t take what other people said so personally.
I would be much more ambitious in my career. I would probably enjoy living in the present moment more.
Great video, thank you!
I found the essential points of this to be very well considered.. very useful. Thank you
Free. Free to love, to feel, to act wisely and unwisely; feel to offer love, free not to
receive what I believe i need; I’d set others free from all my own stuff. I’d spread
my wings and soar on the winds which life brings.
I would be much more relaxed, confident and at peace. I would breathe and speak more fully and clearly. I’d feel less angry.
Thanks, Tara, for sharing your wisdom and brilliance so lovingly.
Thank you for sharing these important tools to enhance well-being.
If I did not believe something was wrong with me I would fully step into my true self and follow my heart. There would be courage to take risks and the strong belief that I am enough.
This is such a valuable mantra. If I stopped believing fear based lies I’d be content, confident, compassionate and I’d open myself up to deeper connections with others more consistently. Thank you!
I thought it was a good lead in to the problem of fear & doubt encouraging the mind to want more analysis, strategies to transform the problems.
I will see a new client tomorrow who has some limitations. He is doubting his ability to reach his goals in life. I will use this training with hm.
I would be a good grandma.
I couldn’t have gotten this a more perfect time in my life thank you. I would be able to handle living alone with so much grace. I’d have so much motivation for life,love,my career, and I wouldn’t be so intimidated by others. May even develope a whole social circle who knows but the visions that come to mind feel amazing!!!
I wouldn’t be stuck in guilt and shame . I would be brave and turn toward; realizing and forgiving my humanness .i would be more honest and
have more to give others instead of spending energy protecting myself .
I could purely love outward and inward. I would be FREE !! ???
I would be myself, present in each moment and I would not have the fear of perfectionism holding me back in my training.
I would be myself, present in each moment.
Good question. I think I would be more peaceful and more present and take more risks in my work in terms of expanding my therapy service. Yes, fear of failure is beneath this.
Thank you ??
I would be love.
happy knowing I AM GOOD ENOUGH. and having the courage to be imperfect rather than looking over my shoulder.
Thank you so much this has really it my mind in a better place xx
Without fear I would be a stronger therapist and lead my meditation groups more fluidly. I would become a force for healing others without hesitation and doubt. A free and loving voice that could bring change that is so needed.
I would be free to be me at all levels of my Being. Thank you Tara!
Great and inspiring question. But I can barely imagine an answer, given how central the premise -that there’s something wrong with me-is to such much of my self-conception.
Great and inspiring question. But I can barely imagine an answer, given how central the premise (that there’s something wrong with me) is to such much of my self-conception.
Hi. I have notice that my fears influence in my relationships, especially in my family. I would be more self independent wife and more secure mother that make my son respect me. I would face fear naturally not get quiet and freeze. I would appreciated every day and be more motivated with life. It will impact in others too. Thank you for your videos, receive a hug from Argentina
I’m in my late 60s and have suffered all my life with fears of “ not being good enough “ and “ I won’t be able to cope “. I know this has held me back. Is it really possible that even now I could learn to be without fear or even to reduce my levels of fear ??
I would be love.
thank you for the valuable tips!
My mind boggles with the thought of who I might be without the burden of “not good enough”! Laughing, connecting and loving ?
I would be living in full glorious color, feeling the deep rightness of being alive, with all that it means to be me, in this life in this moment. I would offer all that right back to the world in a passionate dance, with a smile on my face and a spring in my step.
I would stop distracting myself with excuses and live a more gratifying life, freed from taking on too many responsibilities and wallowing in self-pity.
I’d be able to show up for my life and those in it with added curiosity and zest, not using up so much energy on calming my anxiety.
What a profound question and how threatening! This one question challenges my equilibrium and who I believe I am. I might turn into a rock star! I’ve always wanted to be one! This one question….and whatever answer that follows could free me from the bondage of self doubt and fear. Do I really want to be free or have I become comfortable with my diagnosis and identity as someone sick?
The truth is I would like to be free and I’d like to be unstuck.
I’ve often limited myself by not wanting to imagine a life of freedom from self and ego. What if my dreams are not big enough? What if they don’t materialize. Get free and find out!
Who would I be? I would feel more content. I would be more confident and joyful.
Reflecting on “real but not true” is such an expansive feeling. I know it feels real, and my mind will set on it, but to ask “ is it true” expands my heart space. What if it isn’t true. What if these limiting behaviors are based on thoughts that are not true? How different would life be! A simple phrase but so very powerful.
This simple but effective phrase will be so useful. Thank you for sharing
The question invites soul-searching and dares people to dream. I dare say that many responses would include words such as “confident”, “brave”, “serene”, resilient”, “healthy”, “peaceful”, “fulfilled”.
Without fear I would be the owner of my own business and in a relationship that is more open and honest because I would be able to communicate from my heart and a space of confidence in myself.
I would be a warrior for the causes I believe in; undaunted by threats of exposure. I would be a strong leader; not deferential; fearless!
Interesting. Like using a “transference/countertransference” approach to your self. Looking FWD to trying it w/ my clients, who report they’ve done “wrong”, persistently.
What a good reminder! “Real but not true.”. Thanks for the wisdom and kindness you convey.
I would be free to focus on the things I enjoy more.
Thank you for increasing awareness of the dynamics of fear and how to move through it in these times of very misdirected fear. I know deeply how it can strangle, disable and confuse. And compassion and acceptance for parts that are in the grip of it (with grounding and space for it to breathe) is the way through, creating more space for a fulfilling life. I need frequent reminders when fear comes up to visit and how luscious it is to free myself from its grip. Precious contribution appreciated!
Without fear, without believing something is wrong with me, I would be confident, I would love myself for who I am, and instead of just using my strength to merely survive each day, I would be clearer minded, prosperous, and more successful at using my broad skillset of wisdom in life and business and all the good I have to share with the world.
I viewed this after watching a recent short video of Carolyn Myss. In it she said the other’s behaviour was a reflection of something we had done previously. This I get. I then went deeper to discover why I reacted in a certain way in a current situation. It took me back to my ex husband (gaslighter type)’s blaming me. Even though I knew what he was saying was not true on a visceral level it still pained me. Why? I went deeper and related it to the old teachings of the Catholic church (10 yrs in Catholic day school) – being a sinner, guilt, not worthy and as a female, devalued. Then I listened to your 3rd video and it was further driven home. Thanks for the mantra. Will share this with others.
No but i would not have it so present in my life.
The me I am meant to be.
I would be able to commit to a relationship. I would be able to dream… sing and dance more joyfully. I would be sure I deserve the good things that happen in my life.
How interesting to reflect on ‘real but not true’. Echos of comments from my dad spring to mind, Words from 50-60 years ago. I’ve written three books, each best sellers in my field. For some reason the fear of not being good enough or falling short keep me from the writing of my next book. I love the questions, “Who would I be without fear? Who would I be if I didn’t believe I might fall short?” I am pulled back to a rich meditation I used when I wrote my third book in 1992. Thank you for opening that space for me.
Free and connected!!
It would be such a relief to believe in myself and lose that constant self doubt gnawing in the back of my mind. Thank you for a great video.