In the aftermath of the recent tragedies in El Paso and Dayton, it’s nearly impossible to know what to do or say. These acts of gun violence bring up all sorts of painful emotions – grief, sadness, anger, and fear. As the daughter of a pastor, I was taught the importance of weeping with those […]
Working with Abandonment – A Common Therapeutic Mistake
When we’re working with a client’s fear of abandonment, it can add a unique challenge to the therapeutic relationship.You see, the client already has their rejection radar up. So we might become overly cautious to avoid doing anything that could feed into their fear. Problem is, this approach can sometimes be counterintuitive. Not only that, […]
Perfectionism – The Drive to be Perfect and What it Costs Clients
When we think of perfectionism, we often think of the rewards that sometimes come with it . . . . . . think: the respect and admiration of others, the thrill of mastering a new skill, or the sense of accomplishment after a job well done. And when a client is reveling in these kinds […]
One Childhood Lesson That Sticks with Me
From a young age, I was taught that it is more blessed to give than to receive . . . . . . and over the years, I’ve come to appreciate the wisdom behind those simple words. You see, one of the founding principles of NICABM is to give back and do what we can […]