Depression can rob our clients of the full, thriving lives we all hope for.
And so often, a depressed client will avoid the very people, places, and activities that once gave them pleasure.
In the video below, Steven Hayes, PhD describes a woman who suffered from both depression and anxiety. She started avoiding the business that she owned . . .
. . . until he gave her a simple, unique, almost playful assignment.
Take a look – it’s about 5 minutes.
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What ideas are you going to use with your patients? Please leave a comment below.
I love turning away from the problem, the roots of the problem and the playful idea of doing everyday something new which brings me closer to my values. Watching nicabm videos is just the thing for me! A short time of studying without stress brings me forward in my practice and with my clients. 🙂
I’d love to find a way to frame this for aspiring millennials in the workplace, who have been so clocked and tracked and graded that they sometimes seem to find it hard to feel like they’re succeeding without ‘beating’ others to the levels and accolades they seek so actively.
I’ve felt badly for some of my younger colleagues, who seem to lack this experience of secret kindness, or secret/internal anything. I’ve seen folks who are so hungry to be witnessed that they’ve done damage to those around them, but they still don’t seem fed or confirmed even when they ‘win’.
Given rules like these, and a set goal to achieve, might be just the ticket.
And what about receiving kindness? How do we react when we receive kindness – or anything else – and don’t know whom to thank?
Well, we coukd simply feel grateful and cared for and maybe even enjoy the mystery. One of the beauties of the anonymity is that it removes the ability to feel beholden or to feel pressure to return in a tit for tat manner. There’s no one to repay when you do not know who chose to bless you with kindness. Thus, it also removes any sense of control over outcomes, teaching us that good things can just come to us without earning or repaying being a part of the picture as well as that we do not have to control everything!
It is often more comfortable to give than to receive because we retain some eense of being in control as the giver, but there is indeed much blessing in learning the art of receiving!
Apologies for typos –my screen won’t go bigger for this site, and the type is teensy!
I like the idea of being kind and not getting caught so will be considering this as a strategy for some clients that I think it might resonate with.
Great video. Thank you.