Countering the Painful Impact of Cultural Messaging

In a perfect world, people wouldn’t be judged based on their abilities, gender, or ethnicity. But all too often, our clients come to us having taken in the harsh, critical messages they’ve received from family members or society. Shelly Harrell, PhD is a licensed psychologist who specializes in multicultural and community psychology. And in her work at UCLA, she’s seen firsthand how cultural messages can affect people’s beliefs about themselves. In the video below, Shelly shares how she works with clients to help them deconstruct negative views of their sense of worth. Take a look – it’s about 6 minutes….

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Guilt vs. Shame

What are the differences between guilt and shame? And how could it help our clients to have a better understanding of those differences? We thought it could be useful for you to have a side-by-side comparison of these powerful emotions that you could share with your clients. Because understanding these differences could help our clients begin to dismantle their negative self-judgments. So we created this infographic. (Please feel free to make a copy to give to your clients.) Click the image to enlarge If you’d like to print a copy to share with your clients, just click here: Color or…

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5 Ways to Create an Anti-Depressant Brain

Depression can rob people of their sense of aliveness and vitality, interfere with job performance, disrupt relationships, and increase the likelihood of self-harm. So are there tools we can use to help clients reduce and even prevent suffering from depression? My friend, Elisha Goldstein, PhD has identified 5 natural ways to create an anti-depressant brain. Elisha is a clinical psychologist in private practice, co-founder of The Center for Mindful Living in LA, and author of the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion. ________________________________________________________ For years now, I’ve studied what helps create more resilience and happiness within us….

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How to Become Who You Want to Be – with Tara Brach, PhD

“I’m not as good as I should be.” It’s a common refrain from many of our patients. Helping them trade self-judgment for self-compassion is an essential first step in creating real change. Watch below as Tara Brach, PhD, talks about what needs to be in place before we can become truly free and open to changing ourselves. Breaking out of a long-held cycle of self-judgment can be difficult – but it isn’t impossible. How has compassion played a role either in your own life or in your work with patients? Please share a comment with us below.


If you are an expert . . .

Okay, so maybe that wasn’t the best place to start because it seems many people don’t believe the word expert applies to them. But hear me out, because I think that’s a significant problem. I come across far too many gifted practitioners, people with important ideas – ideas that could change people’s lives – yet they just don’t feel like experts. At the same time, all too often I’ve seen people who have simply read a book, or gone to a workshop, (people who know far less than you do) and voila! Suddenly they’re an instant expert. I’ll bet you’ve…

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Reframing a Patient’s Response to Trauma so They Can Heal

When a trauma occurs, our bodies simply react. But sometimes, when the body immobilizes in the face of trauma, this shutdown response can leave some trauma survivors (and even their loved ones) wondering why they didn’t “do” more to protect or defend themselves . . . . . . and often, this feeling of helplessness or “failure” that results only gets in the way of healing. But according to Stephen Porges, PhD, there’s a way to help patients reframe their perspective so they can shake off the lingering sense of shame that sometimes accompanies unresolved trauma. Check out the video…

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