Working with Clients Who Feel “Never Good Enough”

People constantly compare themselves against messages they receive from friends, family, media, and our culture. And those messages often contribute to feelings of “never good enough”: Not attractive enough. Not intelligent enough. Not thin enough. Not successful enough. For many of our clients, they’ve encountered these types of messages from a very young age, and…

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Expert Strategies for Helping Clients Get “Unstuck”

One of the main reasons clients come to see us is that they’re stuck – in one way or another. Maybe they’ve got limiting beliefs about what they can, or can’t, accomplish. Sometimes the fear of trying something new holds people back. When a client is stuck, it’s often useful to consider how other practitioners…

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Countering the Painful Impact of Cultural Messaging

In a perfect world, people wouldn’t be judged based on their abilities, gender, or ethnicity. But all too often, our clients come to us having taken in the harsh, critical messages they’ve received from family members or society. Shelly Harrell, PhD is a licensed psychologist who specializes in multicultural and community psychology. And in her…

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Why Uncertainty Is Not a Problem to Be Solved

At the risk of stating the obvious, uncertainty is one of the only “certains” in life. And often, it fuels the fire of anxiety, depression, and many of the other issues that are so common to the clients we see. But what if we had a different way to frame uncertainty, so that clients might…

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Shining a Light into the Darkness

I’ll admit it. I’ve been counting down the days until this year’s Winter Solstice. As the sun sets around 4:20 each afternoon, and darkness envelops the windows of NICABM, I find myself longing for more hours of daylight. Is it any wonder, then, that images of light and dark play such a prominent role in…

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5 Steps to Changing the World

How exactly does change come about? As health and mental health practitioners, our calling is to help people change. But I’m thinking about change on a number of different levels. There are the changes we help our clients make, as well as personal changes we might hope to see in our own lives. I’m also…

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